Tips on High School Dating

Marcelina Hardy, MSEd, BCC
Two sets of couples having a good time together.

Dating in high school can be complicated, but with these tips on high school dating, you will know what to expect so you can keep your relationship going.

Dating in High School

If you have dated in high school, you already know there is a lot that goes into it besides just hanging out with someone you like. Your friends probably get too involved and your parents are overprotective. These factors can cause a lot of stress in your relationship and are a few of the reasons why many high school love affairs do not last.

Making Your Relationship Last: Tips on High School Dating

Making your relationship last is not impossible as long as you follow some tips on high school dating.

  • Keep your relationship separated from friends

You may find someone to date that is part of your circle of friends; this is fine, just keep your relationship separate from them. You can do this by not including your friends in arguments you and your boyfriend/girlfriend have or being overly affectionate while in the group.

  • Keep negativity low

Don't speak negatively about the person you are dating to anyone, including your friends. Of course, you will have those times when you need to vent, but keep it at a minimum. This is especially true if your friends do not like your boyfriend/girlfriend. Talking badly will only give them more ammunition to throw at you for the reasons why they don't like him or her.

  • Know whom you can trust

Your friends will come to you with stories about your boyfriend or girlfriend that may not make you happy. These stories could be made up or an exaggeration of the truth. Sometimes friends like to cause trouble between a couple because it's exciting for them or they are jealous. Just be careful about who you listen to when rumors start.

  • Talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend

If an issue comes up, do not start talking to your friends before you talk to the person who you are dating. One of the worst things to hear is that the person you care for is having concerns, but hasn't voiced them to you first.

  • Be respectful to your boyfriend/girlfriend

If your date's parents set a curfew, don't voice how unfair it is to your boyfriend or girlfriend because it may cause friction between you and the parents. Respect the wishes of your date's parents and everyone will be much happier and less stressed out.

  • Be patient with intimacy

Sometimes you have to be patient and again, respect the person you are dating. If he or she is not ready to move on to the level of intimacy you are ready for, do not pressure the person. The only thing that pressuring will do is make the person either resent you later or scare him or her off.

  • Life goes on while dating

Some couples are so in love with each other they forget about the life they had when they were single. This means that grades slip or they end up without any friends because they have pushed them away. This can cause resentment in the relationship. Spend time together, but also spend time alone with your friends and don't forget to keep studying.

  • Be honest and solve issues quickly

Some young couples do not like to voice concerns about their relationship because they don't want to lose the other person. The problem with this is that they end up losing the other person anyway because they don't talk things out. When you have a problem with your boyfriend or girlfriend, talk to him or her about it. If you can settle issues as they come up, you will feel a lot happier and secure in your relationship.

Conclusion

The majority of high school couples do not make it past graduation. Many times it's because they didn't follow the tips above, they moved on to date other people or went their separate ways after graduation. So don't feel bad if you end up breaking up with someone you thought you would be with forever. There will be many other people available to you to date and it's only a matter of time before you feel that love for someone again. .

Tips on High School Dating