How to Ask a Guy to Prom

Marcelina Hardy, MSEd, BCC
Girl asking guy to prom

You're getting nervous because you don't know how to ask a guy to prom. Don't be though! You will do just fine, especially after reading these tips.

Tips on How to Ask a Guy to Prom

How to ask a guy to prom depends on what kind of relationship you have with him. You either have known him for a long time, or you just met him and would like to get to know him better by going to prom with him.

Asking Your Guy Friend to Prom

If you've known him for a while and you are good friends with him, follow these tips.

Make Yourself an Option

Many girls get anxious asking a guy to prom because they think it means that they are confessing their true feelings for him. This is not always the case, if you are friends with the guy and you don't want anything further, asking him shouldn't put too much pressure on you. Simply ask him who he is going with or who he would like to go with. If he doesn't have a date yet or doesn't have an interest in going with anyone, tell him that you are in the same situation. Either you can follow this up with an invitation to go with you, or you can wait to see if he takes the bait and invites you to go with him. Beware though: if he doesn't invite you, it doesn't mean he doesn't want to go with you. It may just mean he didn't get it.

Only As Friends

Start a conversation about prom and mention how you would like to go with a friend. If he doesn't follow this up with an invitation, simply ask him if he would be willing to go with you "just as friends." That way, if he says no, you can make a joke about being rejected and how you'll never let him live it down. This prevents any confusion about whether or not you like him more than a friend and cuts out potential awkwardness.

Make a Pact

If you and your friend would like to go with someone but aren't sure if it's going to work out, you can make a pact with your guy friend that if you both don't have a date by a certain date before prom, you two will go together. This is truly what friends are for, and it will take the pressure off of seeming as though you are looking for more out of the friendship.

The only thing that you should be careful about with this is that he may find someone to go with and you may not. Prepare yourself for this situation so you won't be too heartbroken when your backup isn't available.

Asking a Guy You Like to Prom

Asking a guy you like to prom is difficult. You're afraid that he will reject you and that he will know that you like him. While this may be frightening, you'll never know if he feels the same way about you if you don't take a chance. Consider using one of these tips to ask a guy to prom.

Set Up the Question

Don't go up to him and come out of nowhere when asking him to prom. Start a conversation about prom with him to gauge his interest in going to the event. This way, if he says no, you'll know it's not because he didn't want to go to prom at all.

After you find out he wants to go to prom, ask him if he already has someone to go with. If he says no, then tell him that you also don't have anyone to go with but you want to go with someone. At this point, you can either wait to see if he asks you, or you can say something like, "How about we go together?" or "It would be really fun to go with you."

Just as you have to be careful not to expect too much from your hint when asking a friend, don't become discouraged if he doesn't ask you after you drop the hint. Some guys just don't understand where you are going with mentioning that you don't have anyone to go with yet. He most likely thinks you are just talking.

Have a Friend Ask

This is probably the easiest way to ask a guy to prom, but it may not end up working out to your advantage. Some guys won't say yes to a friend because they don't want to let anyone else know that they possibly like the girl.

As an alternative, you can have your friend find out if he already has a date. If he doesn't, then you can use the tip above to ask him.

If you really want to have a friend ask for you, make sure he or she asks him when there isn't anyone else around. Some guys will become embarrassed and say no if asked in front of their friends.

Write a Letter

Compose a letter about how you want to go to prom with him. Simply state that you know he doesn't have a date yet and that you don't either, so you wonder if he would like to go with you.

Stay Calm and Confident

You are a fun person or you wouldn't want to go to prom to have a good time! Anyone would be lucky to go with you. Take that confidence and use it when you ask the guy to prom. Remaining calm will show him that you know no matter what, you will still have an awesome night.

How to Ask a Guy to Prom