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Hi Cindy,

I'm so sorry this happened. Yes, you have a valid reason to be upset. This is your sister and she should have known better than to start dating your ex. The mature thing to do is sit down and let your sister know how hurt you are - she probably has no idea she has done anything wrong. Most importantly though, don't let a boy come between you and your sister - if she chooses to stay with him after you talk to her about it, just hang in there until they break up. ;)

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

okay so me and my boyfriend just broke up and him and my sister are now going out and i am so mad at both of them and i dont knoe what to do because its my sister but im mad and i dont want to talk to her but idk if i have a reason to be mad

if you were me would you be? or am i just over reacting?

-- Contributed by: cindy

HI Guinevere,

I think the best way to tell him is just the way you did here. You can just let him know that you do like him but you want to wait a bit longer before you start dating. If he really likes you, he will understand.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I'm 13 years old and I really like this guy who likes me back. He wants to go out and become boyfriend and girlfriend, but I don't think I'm ready for it. How should I tell him that we can't right now and we have to wait?

-- Contributed by: Guinevere

Sounds like you're going through some difficult times with a boyfriend. Be strong and know that there are plenty of boys out that will treat you how you should be treated...with respect.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Boys, why do you all cheat on girls when you tell them that you love them. When the girl leaves you...you want them back and that you'll be with her till we die...

-- Contributed by: kristy

Hi Megan,

Your parents are just concerned about you going out with a boy by yourself. You may want to ask your parents if they would be willing to drop you off and pick you guys back up if you want to go somewhere with him. If they are not cool with that, you need to respect their decision and let the boy know that your parents won't let you go out on dates yet. If he truly cares about you, he will still stick around to talk to you and hang out with you at school!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

i really like this guy who likes me back and he always asks me out and I want to. I'm 13 years old, and he's a year younger than me. I think it's a good match, but my parents don't want me to date this young so they don't let me hang out with him. He always asks me to go somewhere with him, and I give an excuse because I don't want to tell him my parents don't want me to. How can I let my parents let me go out with him and how should I respond to him when he asks me out?

-- Contributed by: Megan

Hi Hey, You need to break up with your boyfriend. You have betrayed your boyfriend's trust with his brother! It may be time to get away from this sticky situation and find yourself someone you can be faithful to.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I'm going threw some diffcult times. I was dating this guy, that i met threw his older brother, then his brother started datting my best freind, in some way i broke them up.. But now i dump my boyfreind and now im dating his older brother. I love my ex, just he lied to me about his age, he dnt look 14 and when i see him he looked 17. Im gona be 18 in auguast! he treated me good too. just that one night his brother came up to my house when i was still datting him and i like his brother and that he came up to my house and we hung out. then i ended up cheating on my boyfreind with his brother! what do u think i should do?

-- Contributed by: Hey

Hi Meghan,

I am not sure exactly how your boyfriend is treating you but it's obviously not making you happy. You don't deserve someone in your life that treats you badly, it may time to let him go.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Well thanks guys but my boyfriend is a butt hole and I really don't know how to deal with him any more. But we have been on and off for two years also but he has always been like this to me and not to any of his other girlfriends and I have also known him since I was seven years old. Also he acts way different with his other girlfriends. I should know but he only acts this way to me. Sorry this letter is so long and "proper". If you think you can help email me at Me_Ma2000@yahoo.com Thanks -Megan

-- Contributed by: Meghan101

Thank you Lexi for your encouraging and supportive comment!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

oh..maria..i went through tht. except i only dated the guy for 8 months. see, you've got to tell him goodbye. you'll become miserable if you don't. and its a lot worse than the pain of breaking up with him and hurting them. i spent so many night crying myself to sleep because i didn't do what i should've soon enough. its okay..it happens maria.

-- Contributed by: Lexi

Hi Maria, People fall in and out of love all of the time. You shouldn't stay with someone just because you feel obligated. The purpose of dating is to get to know someone. Our needs change the older we get, so perhaps the two of you have simply outgrown each other. If you break up, just be honest and let the guy down gently. You'll only be miserable if you continue to stay with someone you don't love anymore.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, I've read all the problems and I can't find one that fits mine so, here it goes. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 19 months now, so a year and 7 months. I know he practically worships me and loves me no matter what (he has shown it endlessly) but I'm not sure if I feel the same way about him anymore. Although I might not love him as much as I used to, it would murder me to upset him because I care so much about him. Does that make any sence? If so, what should I do? Is it normal for the feelings to fade ( a lot )?

-- Contributed by: Maria

Thanks!

-- Contributed by: Rina

Then don't. If you really like him, should it matter what others think? I don't think so.

-- Contributed by: Knight

I'd never ask him to do that, because I don't think he should change for me. I like it, but not many people do. It's individual.

-- Contributed by: Rina

Rina: ask him to cut it off, if he doesn't, dump him. If he really cares for you, he will. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly three years. I would do anything for her.And she is my best friend.

Boyfriends and girlfriends should never have sex. Please, please, please wait until you are married. Please.

-- Contributed by: Knight

okay, i have a question. my boyfriend is like very sweet until we are with his friends. his friends like make him a totally different person. i'm scared to know what he does when i'm not around. what should i do?

-- Contributed by: Arian

I have a question. My boyfriend has long hair. Really, REALLY long. Down to his waist, almost. It's very cool, completely hard-metal-rocker style, but my parents and friends tease me about it so much! What should I do?

-- Contributed by: Rina

Sometimes its hard to find a good boyfriend but they come down a dime a dozen in my relationship things are going okay but it'll get better as long as you keep have faith everything will be alright

-- Contributed by: Mookie

A boyfriend is someone who won't pressure you to have sex, date other girls or talk rudely about you behind your back.

-- Contributed by: cami

This article is really good; Thanks :)

-- Contributed by: kels:)

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-- Contributed by: linda

Hi Caitlin, I don't mean to sound harsh, but why are you still dating this guy? You said he's dumped you twice in the same month, but yet you're going to give him another chance to dump you. I think you'd be much better off alone than with someone who is so unpredictable. Give your attention to someone who deserves it, not this guy.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I've been dating this guy for about a month and he's dumped me twice. Once for thinking that I was cheating on him and the other I'm not so sure. He didn't really tell me about the second one. :( I'm going out with him again, but I'm afraid of getting hurt again. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: Caitlin

so theres this guy that i met through another guy that had liked me as well... me and him had hung out, hooked up, and then i fell for him. we dated for a little over a week and then he went through my text messages and found i was talking to another guy and flipped. but the thing is i had no feelings what so ever towards that guy and never will. so we were okayy and decided to be friends, then i saw him at a party one night and then i asked to stay at his house and i did then once we got to his house and i layed down he went through my phone again adn the same situation happened again :/ we're not okayy this is probably the worst situation i have been in to loose some you care about. especially after i had just got out of a 6 month relationship being dumped for no good reason. its just a lesson to not talk to other guys while your dating at all.. that trust, honesty, and loyalty are the main keys to keep it going. this is just my story and i know i'm a dumbass for doing it but maybe someone else will learn from my mistake.

-- Contributed by: Kristen

Hi Leanne, I'm glad things are working out for you. I know it is hard to concentrate on school, but try to anyway. Grades follow you, even after you graduate! Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Well, he isn't the jerk... I'm the coward. I am so in love with him that I can't say a word. But recently, I added and talked to him on Facebook and he replied me. I think he likes me cause he had problems saying things to me too. I was sooooooooo friggin happy when he first said " Hey, You're Leanne from Facebook aren't you? " Oh man... was I nuts. He isn't my boyfriend... yet. But i'm looking forward to having him as my boyfriend. He's really nice, sweet and cute. Gosh, if only I had the picture to show you! The more I talk to him the more I feel attached to him. But now I have another problem, I can't eat, sleep or do anything cause most of the time, i'm busy thinking about him. And the worst thing is... My finals are nearing.

-- Contributed by: Leanne

Well I think a boyfriend is a very hard thing to keep. I think they fool around to much. instead of sicking with one girl they mess with 2 or more.

-- Contributed by: Takeyah Greene

Hi Leanne, If you are saying "Hi" when you walk by him and he ignores you, lose him like luggage. Only a total jerk would ignore someone talking to them. You could do a lot better than someone like that - really!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Yeah... but he doesn't notice me at all. Even when I walk in front of him. He doesn't even look up!

-- Contributed by: Leanne

Hi Leanne, First, if you continue to just stare at him, he may get creeped out. So, you do need to either say "Hi" or say something instead. You don't need to start with your complete life story- just some pleasantries would suffice for now. If he responds, all is well and good. If he acts like a jerk, then you'll be able to get over the crush right away.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hey... there's this guy in my school. He's in the archery club and I really, really like him. The thing is I don't know how to talk to him. He's a year older than me and much more popular than me. Some of my friends know him, but not that well. I have a HUGE crush on a guy who doesn't know my name. What should I do?? I want to talk to him, but I don't know where to start! I see him and all I can do is stare. When he DOES look back at me, I look away. I don't know why, but it happens and I can't stop it. Please help me!

-- Contributed by: Leanne

Hi Emma, Think about why you broke up in the first place. If it is something you could live with again, then by all means, keep on flirting.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Just recently my best friend told me that my ex still loves me and I've noticed he has been flirting, but I'm not sure. What do you think I should do? Should I carry on flirting or should I just move on?

-- Contributed by: Emma

I met this guy in school...we've been dating for more than three months. I've loved this guy until now, but I have to move on. For sure he loves me, but it was before. We were separated because of a misunderstanding. It hurts. We really need trust, acceptance, honesty, loyalty and respect. My ex-boyfriend was the perfect boyfriend I ever had, but so sad to say that it didn't work. I just miss him. I wish I was still her girlfriend...but life must go on. I hope something good will happen.

-- Contributed by: chum

My boyfriend loves me so much hes going to marry me for real.

-- Contributed by: andrissa

Emma, this guy is really jerking you around. He knows that you still have this "thing" for him, and he seems to enjoy making you wonder whether he still has feelings for you. To keep you going, he'll occasionally throw you a bone (a hug or kiss), but then he pulls away again. Honestly, quit giving him the satisfaction. You could do much better, and a real friend would never play the "I told you so" card.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, well I understand about the whole relationship thing, but the thing is my boyfriend and I have broken up! He told me not long ago he still has feelings for me, but then he tells me the next day he likes two other girls. In school he'll sometimes hug me like he use to. Some days he won't talk to me, he'll ignore me instead. He'll hug all my friends and not me! Then when I started seeing another guy and then broke up, my ex boyfriend was all "I told you so!" I didn't get why he was like that and I don't understand why one minute he flirts with me then the next he treats me like I'm his ex!!! What do you think he is trying to tell me? Please help me.

-- Contributed by: Emma

Hi Kay, It sounds like the two of you have moved into a comfortable "friend" relationship. It is normal for both girls and guys to discuss past relationships as a point of reference. If he is talking to you about his current girlfriend, perhaps he is using you as a sounding board because he thinks you are friends, not a couple. I wouldn't read more into this than there is unless he brings up dating you again.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, last summer, I broke with my boyfriend of 3 months because I felt like I couldn't trust him, but I liked him a lot. Afterwards, I found myself getting jealous everytime I heard about him liking another girl. I'm not even sure if I've moved on, actually. We recently became friends again and he often brings up things from our past relationship. He told me he likes another girl right now, but I feel like he still has SOME feelings for me. Am I right, or do guys like to talk about the past?

-- Contributed by: Kay

Hi Ashley, You say this guy is nice and sensitive, yet he still has dumped you, more than once it seems. I think you should re-evaluate what the positive things are about this guy. He may be cute, but he doesn't seem to be very sensitive or nice. You are probably feeling infatuated with what you thought he was; he just isn't fulfilling your ideal of him. I know it always hurts to be the person being dumped, but you are probably better off without his brand of caring. If you can get past the longing for him, you'll be stronger for it. Find someone who really cares about you and is deserving of your attention. This guy doesn't deserve you.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Izzaty, I'm not sure I understand what the problem is. You've been seeing each other for 4 months, but now you never see him? If this is true, it doesn't sound like you are dating each other any more. You say that you tried to get him to go to a class you take at night and he refuses. I think you should move on to someone who wants to spend time with you; it sounds like he has other things he'd rather be doing. You deserve better- move on!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hey, I'm 14. I've been seeing this really cute nice sensative altheltic funny guy for 3 months, but he's dumped me twice because of his grades. Is that bad? We makeout a lot, and things will be going good...and BAM. Dumped. I don't know, I love him, but I can't take being without him.

-- Contributed by: ashley

Hey, I need a suggestion. I've known my boyfriend for a year, but this year we've been seeing each other for 4 months. I'm scared. I asked him to join my extra class at night, but he refuses. What should I do to meet him?

-- Contributed by: izzaty

Hi Sandy, If you trust your boyfriend, that should be good enough for you and your friends. Jamie, the person who dated him before, may want to discredit him; perhaps she still has feelings for him and doesn't really want you to be with him. Sam doesn't want to see you get hurt, and that is just being a good friend. I don't see why you can't have both; a boyfriend and two best friends. Avoid talking about your boyfriend around them for a while, that way you won't be arguing over it. If they want to talk about it, just say that you want to talk about something else. If they push you about it, just tell them that you value their friendship, but you are still going to date Skyler. Period. If they are really your best friends, they'll just let it go.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hey, I'm Sandy. I just started dating this guy Skyler. It seems to be going good so far. I like him and he really is affectionate toward me and communicates with me. The problem is that I met him last year and I had the biggest crush on him. He didn't feel the same toward me, which I found out after I wrote him a note telling him how i felt. He never responded, which hurt me and made my friends not like him that much. Well we are both in our high school band so we started hanging out again and talking. He liked my best friend Jamie, and at the time we got close and became frinds. When Jamie didn't like him, I helped him get through it, which brought us closer together and we started having feelings for each other. Now we are a couple, but my 2 best friends hate him. Jamie does because she thinks he's a pervert and said he has had oonline sex with girls. He denies it and I trust him. My other friend, Sam, hates him for hurting me last year and thinks I will get hurt again. I really like him, but I don't know if I should end it to keep my 2 best friends.

-- Contributed by: sandy

Hi Jayy, Why are you settling for less than you deserve? A boyfriend that largely ignores you isn't really being a boyfriend- he should be your best friend that you share everything with. Don't just date someone so you can say you have a boyfriend; that will keep you from meeting someone else who would really value the time they spend with you.

As for his best friend, steer clear. It is never a good idea to start dating your boyfriend's best friend. If you really like him, you'll have to break up with your boyfriend first. However, odds are the best friend won't date you out of loyalty to his buddy.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi. I am Jayy. I have a boyfriend right now. But personally I would say hes being an ass. I know, sorry to use such a word. But it's true. He barely calls. When he does it's a long phone call, but we hardly say much. On the Internet he forgets I am there cause of a friend or because he playing some dumb game. His best friend, which is also my best friend, tells me not to worry cause he likes me a lot. My boyfriend and I liked each other for 2 years until we finally dated. I am not having second thoughts on dating him, but I just wish there was some way I could get him to talk to me. And another thing. I think I might like his best friend. I dont know. I am so confused.

-- Contributed by: Jayy

Hi Ashley, Sounds like Tylor is a nice guy if he likes you for who you are. Many people spend their entire lives looking for someone like that. Stick with him and don't worry about what the kids in your school say- they aren't dating him, you are! Perhaps the kids in your school are jealous, so I'd lay off talking about how rich Tylor is. Talk about his good qualities if you must, not about his money or what he buys for you.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hey, I`m Ashley but everyone callz me Ash. I have a boyfriend who is a year younger than me, but lives 3 hours away. He lives by my mum (I live with my dad). There's some cute guys at my school and I'm already taken and I don't mind that. My boyfriend's name is Tylor and he likes me for who I am. I'm a LITTLE overweight and he doesn't care. Meanwhile at school I get made fun of. I'm really upset and Tylor is in Florida right now. He bought me a whole bunch of stuff and people think I want him for his money (not true) I'm confused. HELP?

-- Contributed by: Ashley

Hi, I'm carmen, my advice for all the girls who can't find the right guy is to be picky about the guys you choose to be with. Set high standards for what you want in a relationship, don't settle for less. Give yourself credit for what your worth

-- Contributed by: carmen

Hi Angelz, Rushing relationships never works. As the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of toads before you get to the prince. I think most women in the dating scene would agree with that statement. I don't know how old you are, but unless you are going on 30, there is hope for you yet. Most people don't meet the "real" Mr. Right until their 20's, so hang in there.

While it is great to have a boyfriend in high school, they are rarely long-term relationships. Hang in there, and be choosy about the guys you date for now. Don't date someone just to say you have a boyfriend- especially if they aren't going to treat you right. You deserve only the best.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, I'm Lexi but everyone calls me Anglez. I wish I had a man that respected me and was mature, but I haven't met one yet. The guy I dated was confused; he didn't have his priorities straight. I really wish I could meet mister right, but it just seems like that will never happen. Everyone tells me I will, but thats what they say. I just want to wake up one day and my wish will come true. Help me please.

-- Contributed by: angelz

Hi Stef, I think you probably know the answer to your own question. If you have to ask someone else for their opinion, you're not ready to have a sexual relationship, especially at 13. If you start sleeping with all of your boyfriends at such an early age, you run the risk of getting STD's and earning a bad reputation. Why do it? Any guy that wants you to have sex, just because you're girlfriend/boyfriend is just using you. Wait until you really care about someone, and they care about you too. You'll know when it is the right time- you won't have to ask anyone else if it is right.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I wished for a boyfriend for Valentines and I just believed in myself and I got one BEFORE VALENTINE'S. It's feels so cool to have a boyfriend now.

-- Contributed by: cynthia ramos

Hey I'm Stef and I was with my ex and he only wanted sex. I wanted to do it, but I was scared. Now im not with him, I'm with another guy. I'm only 13; should I do it? Help me.

-- Contributed by: steph

Hi Moon, If you have any questions about your new relationship, send a message to Ask the Teen Team!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Well I like my best friend forever (BFF) and we have a lot in common. I think he likes me too.

-- Contributed by: Moon

Thanks! I just got a new guy and I needed to find out how to make it work! Thanks a bunch!

-- Contributed by: $@MBO

Hi Cristina, you can also check out our other pages, Crushes and Teen Crushes for advice from our Teen Team!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

This is really helpful. I just can't deal with my CRUSHHHH!!!

-- Contributed by: Cristina
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