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Hi again Alfonse, can you look her up in the phone book? Does she have an email address? This is the other way to ask her out if she is attached at the hip with her friends. As for asking her out, it hasn't changed in years- "Would you like to go out with me sometime?" is the general wording. You'll find the right words once you actually start talking to her.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

That is the thing though. Whenever I see her, she's always with her friends. And when I see her friends that pretty much destroys my confidence. I just need to get some motivation or something. I don't know how to ask her out though. (what words to use at least)

-- Contributed by: Alfonse

Hi Alfonse, The best way to find out how she feels is to ask her- and you can do that by asking her out. It doesn't have to be a big deal- perhaps just ask her out to a popular hang-out after school or a school event to get to know her better. If she's accepting your tokens of friendship (the candy, etc), then she must already like your company. Just one tip though- ask her out when she is alone, not with a group of her friends or your friends around.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

By the way, i'm wondering if she will ever even look at me again after i ask her out. Im feeling horrendously nervous about even asking to talk to her. I have many, many, doubts in my mind. Will others laugh and make fun? Or will others applaud my effort? And if she does say yes and we have a good first date, how will I keep her satisfied? I'm terribly sorry about being so pessimistic.

-- Contributed by: Alfonse

I really have a special feeling for this girl at school. The thing is that every day I provide her with gum, candy, and other treats. I don't want to shock her or anything by asking her out. I don't really know what the hell to do?!

-- Contributed by: Alfonse

Hi Anonymous, There really is no bad way to ask this girl over to the donut place. Just try to ask her when she's alone, either after class or school. It is easier to do when there isn't a crowd around. You can be casual about it, like say, "I'm heading over to the donut place after school. You're welcome to come if you'd like," that way if she says "no," you've saved face because it wasn't like you asked her on a date. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

so im in middle school, and ther is this girl i like that i talk to a lot during our general music class, i want to ask her out to the donut place by our school one day but i dont no how plz help!!

-- Contributed by: Anonymous

This sorta helped. It actually gave me an idea. Well, the girl that I wanna ask out has a friend who really likes me (She made that VERY obvious by calling me cute and saying I was really nice.) Well, she already has a boyfriend who is actually a sixth grader that I know. But the girl that I like is, like I said, best friends with her. So, I'm gonna get really close to Brooke (Girl that thinks I'm cute) so I can become good friends with Savanna (Girl that I like) then , I can ask her out. This will probably take a little while but I think I can pull it off. Fact about me: The only girl I ever asked out was named Alexis. I liked Alexis whenever I first saw her in third grade, when I came to my new school, and it took me till the end of fifth grade to ask her out. But, granted, I was in two different private schools up until sixth grade so I don't have much experience around girls.

-- Contributed by: Christian C. OH Age: 12

Hi Erik,

It's normal to feel nervous in front of a girl that you like. All you can do is try to work through that nervousness by talking to her more. The more you talk to her, the more you will get to know her, which will make you more comfortable. When asking her out, ease into it. Talk to her about her interests and find something that you both share in common. When you find that you can say, "Hey, we should do that together sometime." Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hi I'm erik and I'm kinda new to dating and I'm bout ask a girl out thing is I get nervous when I'm around her and I don't what say

-- Contributed by: ERIK

Hi Andrew,

Not sure if you went ahead and asked her out yet or not but if not, this is my advice. If she is going out with one of your friends, she is off limits until they break it off. You'll get hurt and it won't be a good note to start your relationship on.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Me again. Well i got to know the girl a lot better. But there's a problem, i think one of my friends is going out with her but i think he badmouths me behind his back so i don't care what he thinks but he's friend's with my other friends and these are my true friends. So i don't know whether to ask her out, also if i do and it gets out then will my friends hate me for hurting their friend. Also it's the last day of term tommorow so will it be a good idea to ask her out tommorow or not?

-- Contributed by: Andrew

JK,

There isn't much you can do if she is going out with someone else except wait until she gets up the courage to end that relationship so she can go out with you. She may be reluctant to leave her boyfriend because she doesn't truly know how you feel about her. Just smile and talk to her, and she will make her choice. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

hey so there is this girl in my class i know she likes me even her friends told me she flirts alot with me but she is going out with this other guy what should i do

-- Contributed by: jk

Hi Riley,

Has she shown any indication that she likes you more than a friend? I know that it takes a lot of courage to ask someone out, but you can do it. Sometimes it's like ripping a band aid off...you just need to do it. Next time you two are hanging out, just say it, "Will you go out with me?" If she says no (prepare yourself now) don't think it's because she doesn't like you, she may just want to stay friends with you instead of risking your friendship if the relationship doesn't work out. Good luck to you!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I really like this girl and shes been my friend for a while now. I think she might like me too but I can never really be sure. I want to ask her out but always get nervous when im about to and chicken out. What should I do??

-- Contributed by: Riley

Thanks for the advice you gave earlier but i have another question: School's almost out; do you think I could still have a relationship with a girl even though we would not see each other as much as we would at school?

-- Contributed by: JT

MS Boy,

Being rejected by a girl is not fun and can make you feel horrible. Don't let these other people get you down though and ruin the potential of future successful relationships. To increase your chances of a girl saying yes to going out with you, hang out with her as much as possible during school. Don't pressure it but just be her friend. If you can call her, try that out first. Once you've become closer to her, you'll be able to tell if she is interested in you and then you can try asking her out. Just be patient. I would be cautious of asking her out at your birthday party because if (by chance) she says no, you don't want it to ruin your birthday. Just have fun with her with no pressure of asking her out for now...the rest will come in time. Good luck and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

JT,

It's difficult to know if she wants to go out with you but it is pretty clear that she is interested in you. Spend more time with her by seeking her out and hanging with her at school. Once you feel comfortable enough, ask her if she wants to get together after school. You'll be able to tell if she likes you in no time this way! Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I've known a certain girl for years. Me and her are both nice to each other and sometimes I feel like shes trying to get my attention. For example she'll pick me out of a croud and wave to me and smile. Is this a sign that she likes me and how can i tell if she wants to go out?

-- Contributed by: JT

I have liked someone for almost a year, before my birthday. On my 13th birthday She and about everyone else I knew came to my huge birthday bash (about 50-150 people can't remember) I have known her for years and we are somewhat good friends. It's coming up on my 14th birthday in July! And we are planning to have a bash again only bigger. This year in a movie theme with a movie projected outside. Would that be a good time to ask her? I am very nervous! I have been rejected 12 times by other people I also have known very well (still close friends) And never been accepted. Is it me? Telling my dad & stepmom anything about this subject will make them embarrass me and her! They aren't very nice about it, nor my step brother and step sister. What do I do? My parents make fun of me constantly in a rude way about my rejections!

-- Contributed by: MS Boy

Hi Andrew,

If you like her, you should start to show her that you do in subtle ways. You can start talking to her more and do nice things for her. Then pay attention to how she reacts to this new attention you are giving her. If she seems to like it and starts to mirror those things you are doing, then it's a good sign that she likes you too. When you feel comfortable and confident enough, you can ask her out. Here is another article you can read to help you more:

Awesome Ways to Ask Out a Girl or Guy

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

can any of you help me with asking someone out. I know this girl and i am friends with her but i like her. I'm in high school and she sits next to me in a class and is near me with other classes. I have known her since primary but i have only got these feelings about her over these months. I have never had a gf before and i'm 13 and so is she. I'm also a bit overweight so will that matter. Also we catch the same bus and i normally walk to it with her but never get the confidence to ask her out. I think she may be interested in someone else. So what do you think i should do.

-- Contributed by: Andrew

Hi Mike!

I know that asking someone out or to be your girlfriend is intimidating but you can do it! There's not one right way to ask someone, you just come right out and say, "Would you like to go out with me?" or suggest that you two do something together such as "Would you like to see that new movie that comes out this weekend?" Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hey im 14 and i really like this girl and all my mates have had gfs in the past and its kinda a sore point when relationships and gfs are mentioned. I like her and i do know her and apparently she likes me but i dont know what to say to ask her out: What words do you say to ask her to be your girlfriend? Cheers...

-- Contributed by: Mike

Hi Justin,

It's so hard to get the courage to ask a girl out but you can do it! If it will help, hang out with her more and become good friends with her. This will help you decide how much you really like her and may make it easier to casually ask her out to the movies or something. Good luck...

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

hey, im 13 and in California in the United States, and theres this girl in my class that i really like, and i want to ask her out, but i cant do it! I talk to her and i know her, but i just cant muster the courage to ask her. CAN SOMEONE HELP?

-- Contributed by: Justin

Hi Riley,

You might want to just start out talking to her and becoming your friend. As you become more comfortable being around her and talking with her, you will find it easier to ask her out on a official date.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hi I'm 13 and in Australia and there is this girl in my homegroup who I really like and want to ask out on a date but I try really hard to impress her and am not sure if she likes me or not. I've known her for a while but only recently started to like her how do I ask her out?

-- Contributed by: Riley

Dylan,

You might want to start by just talking to her. It will help make you feel more comfortable around her so you can ask her out sometime in the future. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I am 13 years old and I just found out today that she was 13 years old too but she is still older than me. But she is way too popular for me, but all the time at least 3 times ever peroid I catch her staring at me, and I can never get her alone to ask her out and I am too neverous to ask her out in frount of people and I don't know what to do Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

-- Contributed by: Dylan Campbell

Hi Daniel, If this girl is still your friend and still laughs at your jokes, she may still be into you. I don't think your past is a big issue with her if she's still hanging around. Ask her out and see where things go- she may be just waiting for you to finally notice her and forget that other girl.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, I'm 12 and I really liked this girl Hazel for about a year, but she was way too popular and all my friends told me it would never work out, so I was over her in about a month. Now I'm starting like this girl Jocelyn and I think she likes me because she laughs at all my jokes, even when some people don't. She knows I liked the other girl. I even asked her on advice for the other girl, but do you think she will say yes even though she kind of knows she wasn't number 1? If not, what should I do to kind of "Clear Up My Past?"

-- Contributed by: Daniel

Hi Joel, You didn't mention if this girl is the same age or the same class as you. One way to find out if she likes you is to simply talk to her. Talk about a class you are taking together or what is going on at the school that week. If she likes you, she'll smile and talk to you too.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Ali, You can always ask someone how their day is going to start a conversation, or ask what they did over the weekend. These are easy ways to start talking to someone. It is always a good idea to ask the other person about themselves if you can't think of anything to say- most people love to talk about themselves and what is important to them.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I really like this girl and im not sure that she feels the same way as me. I`m 14 years old and in the 8th grade.

-- Contributed by: JOEL

There's this girl that goes to my school, and I think that she likes me. I really like her, and I talk to her alot, but lately, I've run out of things to say. I'm 13 and in 8th grade.

-- Contributed by: Ali

Connor, If she is responding to your flirting, sounds like you have a chance. However, first I would make sure your friend doesn't care if the two of you date before you ask her out. If he is really over her, he shouldn't care, but it is always a good idea to ask.

As for the signs, the flirting is the big one. If your best friend doesn't care, just ask her out, perhaps just to do something casual, not like a "date-date," like a sports game or to a teen hang-out where you live. If all goes well, you could then ask her out on a "real" date. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

You really have to help me out with this one which is a weird thing for me to say because I'm normally the type of person who would help someone like me. Anyway, I like this girl named Charlotte. We are both in tenth grade and we are both 15. She broke up with my best friend about four months ago and she still obsesses about him and quite frankly, he is just sick of it. She is smokin' hot to which makes it even harder for me to ask. I think she likes me, but how do I really tell. I flirt with her like every day and she flirts with me, but I don't really know if she really likes me the way I do her. I just can't read/find any of the signs that she likes me. Please, I really need your help.

-- Contributed by: Connor Cota

Hi Christian, If she put out her hand to high-five you, she probably likes you at least a little. Try to talk to her more and then make your move to ask her out. By then you should know whether she likes you or not and if she'd like to date you.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi David, Sometimes it is easier to become friends first before you ask someone out. Otherwise, you just have to take the plunge and ask her out. Face to face is good, as is a phone call or IM. Just don't do it in front of a bunch of people - it is less difficult that way.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Please help me out. I like a girl that's super pretty and is probably the nicest girl at my school. I'm in the 8th grade and I'm 14 years old. I believe she is 13. We are in the same grade and we seem to be good friends in my opinion. But I don't know because most of her friends are more into the popularity thing and I'm more of a practical joking group(sorta like the kind of people you see in Jackass The Movie) But I have a good heart and I care about her. I just don't know if I should get so close as to ask her out because she just had her heart broken and all the other guys in my grade are flirting with her and asking her out so I'm kind of afraid to make that first move. I come to thoughts such as, "What if I'm not good enough looking" "She's way too good for me" "I am not a part of her group" "She may not realize what kind of person I am...What if she thinks I'm a jerk.."

I really like her and I want it to work out. I'm just afraid she may say "no" and this whole thing would turn out as embarrassing as some of the other times I've asked a girl out.

Also, yesterday walking out of school I didn't know what to do and I was high fiving everyone(sound really dumb doesn't it..) and then I went to her and she pulled her hand out and I high fived her but I may have hit her chest and I heard her voice say "oh my gosh" while I was walking away and it brought this to my attention. Any advice?

-- Contributed by: Christian

I need some help. There is a girl with the most beautiful face and eyes and I am scared to ... because i have acne. How do I ask her to go out?

-- Contributed by: david fritsche

Hi Chad, If you spend a great deal of time talking to her on the net, why not ask her out that way too? Suggest something fun that isn't too date-like so it seems informal. Movies, hanging out at the mall or a sports activity after school are good places to start. Say something like, "hey, what are you doing this weekend... would you like to go to the movies with me?" Get the idea?

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Andrew, 13 is still young, so try not to put so much pressure on dating just yet. All relationships start with just one word, "Hi." Try this, and try talking to this girl like she was one of your guy friends. Ask her about school assignments, after school activities, etc. Once you get to know her better, then ask her out.

Group dates are probably a good idea and less stressful- so get a few of your friends together to organize an outing to the movies or other local hangout.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hello, I need some help there a girl I like in my school. I talk to her over the net and in school. I know much about this girl, but I can't seem to ask her out- can't find the words or time and place.

-- Contributed by: chad

I'm 13 and in freshman year and I still haven't asked out a girl. I don't have a car or anything obviously, and I'm not that popular in my school. I like a girl in one of my classes, but she doesn't really notice me. I need some tips or something to approach her.

-- Contributed by: AndrewDaMan

Hi Shy Guy, First, stop being the class clown. It usually won't make you any more popular, and it makes most girls uncomfortable. You can get noticed by other things, like being a good athlete, excelling in your classes and being the all-around nice guy. Try talking to girls in your class like they're already your friends. Smile, say, "Hi" and act casual. If you need help coming out of your shell, try taking acting classes or join the drama club. To that end, you can join other clubs to help you get to know other people in your class so you'll be less nervous. As for social status, that really depends upon the cliques you join. My best advice is don't try and be someone you're not- it is much easier to act naturally around people than to "act" all of the time (a lot less stressful, too).

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 12. There's this girl she is smart, cute and an all around nice person and I am a painfully shy kinda guy that is always goofing up in front of everybody. Needless to say, my social status has dropped to an all time low. How should I ask her out. PS do you know any web sites that have advice on how to build soical status?

-- Contributed by: shy guy

Hi Wilko, As long as she doesn't wrinkle up her nose in disgust at you when you look at her, you're making progress. The next step would be to have a casual conversation, starting with "Hi." Usually girls are more chatty than guys are, so if you get the ball rolling perhaps she'll reply and keep the conversation going. If not, just keep saying "Hi" or "How are you" when you pass in the halls at school. Eventually she'll get the clue that you're into her, and hopefully respond positively.

As for being a year older, that isn't much of a difference at all. I wouldn't worry about that!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I am dead shy around cute girls. There's this girl in yr 10 who I really like (I'm in year 9), who is same size as me. Is that considered out of my league? I'm just kind of stuck on how to approach her. Basically, I've given her a few looks and she looked back so I don't know. Any tips on what I should do?

-- Contributed by: wilko

Hi Hayden, Why not just ask her out on the Internet? You say you told her that you like her (and I'm guessing she didn't run away screaming). You also say that you talk on the Internet a lot. I don't see any reason for her to reject you if you seem to be close friends. Why not ask her out to the movies, putt-putt golf, or anything else local that would be fun. As for being out of her league, don't put yourself down! Think positive!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, I have known this girl for about a year and I told her I liked her, but I don't have the guts to ask her out. We talk over the internet a lot, but it is so hard to ask her.

Also, if I get the date, I don't even know where to take her. Help me! By the way, she is way out of my league.

-- Contributed by: Hayden

Hey guys! OK, I'm a junior high student, and I'm female. I'm here to help! I have really good news for you; if you want a girl, go for her. She is just as shy as you are, and there is about a 87% chance that she will say yes. Girls are really eager for guys to finally start noticing them! (You may not know this, but we've been liking you from around third grade!) Also, this is huge right here- so pay attention. Don't just go for 'cute' girls. You can if you want to but some girls go utterly unnoticed. I am lonely and not-so-very-pretty, but I can be. Girls are very hormonal at this age (don't let that put you off!) and you might be their light in the darkness. When some girls have a guy who likes them 'that way' and they like that guy 'that way' it will help them bring out the the best in themselves! (Who knows, they may go from nothing extraordinary, to extremely beautiful!) By the way, this might be really hard, but we (as in girls) prefer the direct approach! If you are outgoing and friendly, this should be easy! If not, the other best way is email. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Lynn

Hi Tristan, If you are most comfortable communicating with this girl by texting, then by all means, ask her out via a text message. It isn't that much different than a phone call.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I suck at talking to girls. I have the phone number of a girl I like and we text A LOT! Should I ask her out by text? Please reply .

-- Contributed by: Tristan

Hi Scott, Try calling her at home or getting her email address so you can ask her out. If you can't get this information from her, ask one of her friends for the email address, or look in the phone book for her number.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

There's a girl in my class who I really like. We talk to each other occasionally and I've tried to become acquainted with her over the course of the eight months we've known each other. I really want to take a step forward and ask her out but I don't know when the right time for this would be. She's always with her friends when I see her and whenever we do talk, she never stays in the conversation for very long. How should I go about asking her out?

-- Contributed by: scott

Daniel, One of the easiest ways to get to know a girl and ask her out is to start talking to her. You'll have to talk with her on a date too, so get some practice in before you actually go out. Talk to her about school, just say, "Hi" or talk about things that are going on in school like sports. You could also have a friend find out if she likes you, just to be sure she's interested. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

There's a girl I like but it seems so hard to ask her out.

-- Contributed by: daniel

Hi Christian, How about asking your friends when is the last time they asked someone out! All kidding aside, how does this girl view you? Are you friends? If you are, try asking her to do something without making a big deal out of it. Ask her to go bowling, to a movie or even to a school event like a baseball game, track meet or whatever is going on currently at your school. You could also try the group approach- get some of your friends and their girlfriends to do something together, like going to the mall or one of the other activities I mentioned. This would take the pressure off of both of you, and she may be more likely to say yes.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Jon, I hope I have this straight. The girl you really like has a boyfriend, but you don't think he is good enough for the girl you like. The girl is also friends with you and puts little kiss signs next to her signature when she emails you. Hmm, well first I would advise against making a move or asking her out while she is still seeing this other boyfriend. If you think kids at school don't like you now, breaking up a relationship could land you seriously in the dog house. As for the little kiss symbols next to her name in the emails, I would try not to read too much into that. It could simply mean she is very grateful and considers you a very good friend. I would wait until she is available before I would ask her out. Since you already have an email relationship with her, when the opportunity presents itself, you could ask her out in an email.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, I'm Jon. There is this girl who I like, but she has a boyfriend. He can be a bit silly and she dosen't like it, but the thing is is that she hasen't dumped him. The other problem is that I have been out with 3 girls in my school and they dont like me. One of them, one of her friends, won't ever talk to me again. This girl is sweet, cheerful and pretty(the one I like now) and dosen't mind me talking about my interests. I talk to her on MSN a lot and when she asks me for help on something I always help her with it. She says "thanks" and puts a small kiss next to it. Now 1) shes never alone at school, 2) she's very nervous, 3) I'm nervous, 4) her boyfriend made a joke that I fancied her and I thought he meant it and 5) not many people like me at my school because of my religion and because I don't talk much. Please, please help me. I'm not desperate, but I really like her and she might like me. Thanks everyone.

-- Contributed by: jon(not real name for privacy)

Hi, I'm a 7th grader and I have liked this girl in my class for 2 years now. I have recently tried to ask her out, but I can't get up the nerves. Also my friends keep calling me a PUSSY! What do I do?

-- Contributed by: christian griffin

Hi Randy, I didn't say you had to kiss someone on the lips. Many friends hug each other in greeting and occasionally kiss each other on the cheeks. However, some schools prohibit any form of affection, such as innocent hugs and kisses, in school. Make sure you know the rules before you engage in PDAs (public displays of affection).

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Dear, Ms. Gerber is it really OK to Kiss or hug a friend that is not a girl friend. i would think that that would be weird in middle school.

-- Contributed by: Randy

Hello Ben, So, you want to know how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend? If that is what you mean, try saying exactly that. A simple, "Would you like to be my girlfriend," will usually suffice.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Randy, 13 is a little on the young side for dating, but many guys your age have several friend girls that they can kiss or hug, as long as it is mutual admiration. You say that you don't have any girls that you like. My advice is to join some activities that will allow you to meet more people. Are there any clubs or sports that you are interested in? This is definitely one way to increase the number of girls that you can interact with outside of your classroom. Hopefully this will help you find a few girls that you are interested in. One word of advice though, try to be a good friend first for a little while before you try to make a move on a girl.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Joe, I guess I would want to know whether his parents want him to date before I'd set him up with someone (if you want to keep your tutoring job). 14 is still a little on the young side, but if his parents would allow him to date, maybe a group date would help. I know that home schooled kids don't see large groups of kids each day, but they are usually involved in some outside activities. Depending upon how old you are, perhaps you could take him to some activities that would broaden his horizons and introduce him to some people in his age group- kind of like a big brother would. If his parents trust you to tutor their son, they probably wouldn't object to you taking him to some local events and activities either.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Confused, If you don't live anywhere near her, being Internet friends is probably the most you can hope for. Long distance relationships are hard, especially when you are young and should be experiencing a lot of different relationships and dating. If she is still close by, but you don't see her very often, you could try asking her out on a friendly basis (no strings attached) to a movie or something that she would like to do. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hello, I have this extreme desire to cuddle or kiss a girl. But I have a problem; there isn't really a girl that I like and I feel like I am to young anyways. Please help.

PS. i am 13

-- Contributed by: Randy

I'm tutoring a 14 year old boy who has never dated. He's shy, he's been home schooled, so he has little contact with girls. Help!

-- Contributed by: Joe Daigre

I need help. There is this girl at my school who has been my good friend for about three years I really like her. And just at the same time I got up the courage to ask her out she changed schools. I still talk to her a lot via e-mail and I.M. and see her occasionally. Should I ask her out or just settle for being internet friends? Please help.

-- Contributed by: Confused

What if you're asking them out just to be boyfriend and girlfriend, but are not going any where in paticular- just wanting to start the relationship and go from there. How would you ask? You can't just say "Want to go out," because then you're not really going anywhere.

-- Contributed by: ben

Hi Brice and Ozzy, There isn't a script that you can follow for asking a girl out. Everyone is different! You could try saying, "Hey, would you like to go to a movie with me this weekend?" Hopefully she'll say yes and then you just need to provide her with the time and how you'll get to the movie. It is that simple. No one can do this part for you, and most girls don't like it when you have someone else do the asking for you. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I already have her email (no phone) and I'm pretty sure she likes me, but I just don't know how to ask her. Advice?

-- Contributed by: ozzy

I'm kinda shy, but I really like her. I don't know how to say the right thing.

-- Contributed by: brice noggle

Hi again Hady, Getting her number is a good idea, or you could also ask for her email address too!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Well I only see her during class, sometimes before class, but there are alot of people around. I do see her at lunch sometimes, but I'm so shy I don't know how to go up to her....maybe I could try to get her number and it could be easier from then...?

-- Contributed by: hady

Hi Hady, Finding a quiet moment away from intrusions can be a problem. I would suggest trying to talk to her at the end of the day when everyone is scattering to the four winds to get home, like at her locker or while walking her to the bus or parking lot. When do you normally get to talk to her? Before class? That would be a good idea too, outside of the classroom away from prying eyes. You could also do the old-fashioned thing and go to her house to ask her out, that way no one but the two of you, and possibly a nosy sibling, would know about the invite.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I like this girl a lot. I'm a sophomore and she's a freshman. We seem to get along well, and we keep our conversations going. I'm pretty shy though and I want to ask her out, but I don't know how to get her in a private area. Any tips?

-- Contributed by: hady

Hi Greg, You didn't say how old you are, but I'm guessing you're close in age to Amanda. Everyone gets butterflies in their stomach when they're around someone they are attracted to. Starting with "hi" is a good thing; at least you are attempting to communicate with her. Follow the "hi" with something more substantial, such as "how's it going" or "are you going to the game tonight" or something that is a question- that will prompt her to keep the conversation going. Once you start a conversation, even a short one, it lets her know that you are interested in her. If she likes you too, it shouldn't be hard to keep the relationship progressing. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Samantha, In this day and age it is okay for girls to ask guys out. However, there is still that small segment of the population that prefers that the guys are the agressors. It's a male dominance thing. So, it is up to you. If he is taking forever to ask you out, try asking him out. Make it casual though, like asking him to do something after school or go out to the movies. If he's a modern guy, he'll say yes. If not, you haven't lost anything. At least you'll know where you stand with him.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I really like this guy named Daniel and he kept saying to his friend "I will ask her out and I never do." Well I was reading something and it says 89% of guys want you to make the 1st move what should I do.

-- Contributed by: Samantha

I really like this girl her name is Amanda. Shes a freshman. She is so cute when I see her all I can say is hi because I'm so nervous what do I do?

-- Contributed by: greg

Hi Someone, Do you want to go out with this girl? It sounds as if everyone thinks you should be dating except you! Don't let friends push you into something you aren't ready for. Try being good friends first; it will naturally evolve into a deeper relationships if you both feel the same way. If and when you are ready, try asking this girl out when the two of you are alone. Ask her if she would like to go out sometime with you, and have a few ideas of things you can do when you ask her so she'll have a choice of what to do. Set a date right away- don't leave it hanging out there- that only makes it confusing.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

There is this girl at my church that I like, and she likes me too. Everyone in my youth group knows we like each other, and her friends keep asking me when I am going to ask her out. I have had a few good chances, but when I am about to ask, I just freeze up. HELP!

-- Contributed by: Someone

Hi Bob, Hopefully if you have known this girl for about a year, and you get along fine, there is probably no real reason she won't say yes. However, I would suggest you ask her out without her friends around. Girls like these things to be private, and you will too (especially if she were to say no unexpectedly). I know asking someone out is hard, but the only way you'll know how she feels about you is to take the plunge and ask her out. It would also be a good idea to have a few suggestions for your date ahead of time if she says yes. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Help! I really like this girl and I've known her for a year, but I'm scared she'll say no. How do I ask her out in front of her friends without the other girls getting jealous? I need some ADVICE.

-- Contributed by: bob

Nick, You shouldn't feel that you have to use a gift to get a girl to go out with you. I think that she is flirting with you though, so try asking her out for something simple and fun this Valentine's Day (or this weekend). Try asking her in person, when her friends aren't hanging around (or send her a note directly during Study Hall). The movies, bowling, laser-tag, roller/ice skating, anything that is inexpensive and local for you. Save the ring for when you two are an item! Good luck and Happy Valentine's Day!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm Nick and I have lived in Maine for 6 months now, and ever since school started up I,ve been eying this girl. Lets say her name is Maria (Which it is not) "Maria" is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in my life. I'm in 7th grade and been eying her and since then. In study hall she tells me to sit in front of her and she pokes me with a pencil. By this I think she is attracted to me and since tomorrow is Valentines Day, I have considered asking her out tomorrow. I have a ring- should I ask her out with this? If not, how should I ask her out?

-- Contributed by: Nick

Hi Jeff, You can do one of two things: you can have one of your friends ask the girl or one of her close friends if she is really interested in you. Or, you can go right to her and ask her yourself (probably the best way to find out what you really want to know). Do this when the two of you are alone, not in front of her friends. If she is classy, she'll tell you what you want to know; if not, and she tells her friends, you'll know she isn't the kind of girl you'd want to be around anyway and you can move on.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm Jeff and I've REALLY liked this girl for like 3 years, but I can never build up enough courage to ask her out. All of my friends say she likes me but I'm not so sure and I'm afraid that if she says no she'll tell her friends and I'll be humiliated. Please help!

-- Contributed by: Jeff

Hi Cody, check out the Teen Team's answer to you on Questions About Sex and Dating

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

See i like this friend and i told her i liked her. and i asked her out andshe said yes at first bt then she ddump me. I can tell she still likes me. But she really wont talk to me as much, and were not as good of friends. I think i really do like her. What should i do?

-- Contributed by: cody

Hi Ian, check out the Teen Team's answer to you on Ask the Teen Team.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

hey im ricky, im 14, and im in LOVE with this girl we've dated for two times before and we are insuperable. we talk all the time and i know she likes me because shes told me but i want to know of a speacial way to ask her out. not just will go out with me. Can you please help me with this?????????

-- Contributed by: ricky

Im cunfused, I asked a girl out and i had my friend do it for me, she said she would think about it. Does this meen no, does it meen yes? Do I say anything, do I talk to her, to I make eye contact, I need to know!! Please help me!

-- Contributed by: ian

Hi I'm Joseph. I am a 13 year old boy in love with this girl that I have known for a little over 3 years. We are every good friends and we talk almost everyday. (either in person or on Msn) I want to ask her out but I can never seem to do it. I talk to her like I would with anyother person, (except with a little more respect and niceness)but I am scared that she will reject me, all my friends will think I am retarded because the girl I love is a good friend with me and my friends but other people think she is fat and dumb and stupid things like that. Also I am scared that she will say "No Way!" and make a big deal about it and tell all of her friends and I will have no more dignaty and lose what ever tiny bit of popularity I have. Also if I ask her out (This is going to sound pathetic) she will be my first girlfriend and my first date I have ever had. Plus I am scared that if she says Yes and it feels weird to date a really good friend we will break up and we won't be friends anymore, or that if she says no (which 75% chance will happen if I do ask her out) she will not want to be friends anymore, and we are really good friends. I need help on this matter pronto! I am scared she will be taken my another person soon and I will lose my chance. Please help me! I really appreiciate the help! Thanks!

-- Contributed by: Joseph

Hi Bryan, find the answer from the Teen Team to your question on the Questions About Sex and Dating page.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Nick, find the answer to your question on our Teen Crushes page!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

hi im nick and im i nice guy who likes a certain girl but i'm not sure if she likes me back. for example she is in my art class and everytime i see her i cant stop thinking about her, the reason i think she might like me is because very often she looks at me and stares at me for a little and the minute i look at her she looks away. the reason im asking for help is because this has happened before and can't take being rejected by her, she's the girl of my dreams and every time i see her i want to talk to her but can never think of what to say. but the thing that nags at me the most is that i live right next door to her and i cant talk to her because id have a nervous breakdown. every tome i see her i always get sweaty palms and i get embarrassed. please help me, i need help on how to approach her and ask her out or even to just get a steady friend to friend relationship with her. please and thank you

-- Contributed by: nick

Hi Trevor, you can find the answer to your question on the Ask the Teen Team page, Questions About Sex and Dating!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Fatman, check out the Ask the Teen Team new page, Teen Crushes for the answer to your question!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Okay i have gone out with plenty of girls and dated many , but now like i want a more serious relationship, there is this girl i like and I know she likes me due to the fact everyone (her friends) has told me that she wants me to basically ask her out. Now i'm fine with that but im confused on what do you do immediately after you ask her out (given she says yes)?

-- Contributed by: Trevor

I have a crush on this girl and i dont really know her. I want to know how to start a conversation since i missed the whole 1st month of school option. My friend keeps on calling me a wuss cause i wont talk to her. Its not that im a wuss its that i dont know what to say to her. I dont want to just barge in to a conversation that she is have. Someone tell me what to do. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhh help!!

-- Contributed by: Fatman

Theres his girl that goes to my middle school, and i've known her since i was 2 months old, and we've been best friends ever since then. I want to ask her out though, and i'm afraid that if she says no, or that if she says yes and we break up later, our friendship will be ruined. Help?

-- Contributed by: Bryan

Dude girls don't like letters or baskets! That's something for when your dating and when you know each other or when your older so don't do it yet! Zac don't worry bro talk to her like a real person and unless she's a ... then you should be fine

If you don't click then you know you shouldn't follow up on her but if you do then try to ask her out when you two are alone.

IF YOU ARE LIKE 70% OF PEOPLE WHO ARE LUCKY THEN DO NOT OVER PAMPER HER UNLESS YOU HAVE ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY THAT SHE WANTS YOU TO! SERIOUSLY!

-- Contributed by: realist

Hi Wyatt,

Try talking to her about something you really like or are good at. Are you both in drama club, French club, or in a co-ed sport? Talking about common things is always a good way to start a conversation, which can lead to asking her out. You can also try talking to her about a class you take together, such as asking her for the homework assignment after class, even if you don't really need it.

Always try to ask her when she isn't with a bunch of friends- it is always less stressful on both of you that way.

Also, check out our expert article on dating- Awesome Ways to Ask Out a Girl or Guy

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

There's this girl I like at school, and I think she knows that I like her but I don't know if she likes me and I want to go out with her. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: Wyatt

Hi Zak,

Talking to girls isn't really as hard as you might think. As a matter of fact, Haylie may be just as shy as you are! If you really want to talk to Haylie, find something simple that you both have in common, like asking her a question about something in a class that you share together. For example, like what the assignment is, or does she understand the assignment...you get the idea. Once you've opened the door for a dialogue you give yourself a chance to talk with her about other things, either at that time or sometime in the near future.

If you want to ask her out on a date, make sure she is alone so you don't have to ask her in front of a bunch of her (or your) friends.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Zak,

If you want to ask her out on a date, make sure she is alone so you don't have to ask her in front of a bunch of her (or your) friends.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Drew,

How do girls react to confidence? Well, usually girls really like guys with confidence, as long as it isn't perceived as being stuck up. We generally like guys who can ask us out without the help of their friends, and we also like it when you take the lead in planning dates. Of course, in that particular area we'd like it if you ask what kinds of things we like to do- for example, not every girl wants to play paintball! That being said, if you act confident and are respectful, odds are you'll get noticed by the girls.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi guys im in the 8th grade and i like this girl named haylie and i cant really talk to girls that well so if you guys could help that would be great.

-- Contributed by: zak

how well do girls react to confidence

-- Contributed by: drew k

Hi Darrius, Good Luck! We're rooting for you!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Thanks this will really help me with my crush. I'm gonna try this stuff and hopefully it will work. Trust me I'm a very nervous kid. Maybe I'll ask her in a somewhat quiet space where no one hardly goes.

-- Contributed by: Darrius Anderson
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