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My mother always fights with me for silly things she just wants to fight with me. I don't know why we are not at all close to each other.

-- Contributed by: tina

Your sistuation may be worse but I'm like that to. My mom had 7 brothers and they weren't a rich family so my mom had to work in the feild and kitchen really hard. Now she exspects me to do the same. I watch my brother more than her and clean the house when she messes it up. She's a shopaholic and We're practally broke. My mom and dad fight every day and the blame for everything is always shifted to us. She does't know anything about me. She doesn't think I like boys when I'm boy crazy and she doesn't know how I act with my friends. She cares but she is under a lot of pressure.

-- Contributed by: Eleina

First of all I want everyone to know that I'm not bragging in any way. I just wanted to let all of those teens out there know that a good relationship with your mother is possible. Me and my mom shop together and are affectionate in public. I don't see any thing wrong with this and I don't think that anyone else should. I think that as long as you try your hardest to stay close when your younger then you should have a good relationship as you get older. The biggest thing that you can do is TALK. I know that it doesn't seem like much, but I'm 14 and my mom trusts me because I don't hide any thing from her! Try it! It really works!

-- Contributed by: Bri

Hi Stephanie, See the answer to your question posted in the above article!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

My mom and I went on vacation together for spring break and spent a lot of time together, and we didn't argue, which is something that is rare. However, we were also under no stress and had no real external problems in our lives at the time. However, since we've been home, we've had a couple of misunderstandings that escalate into stupid arguments because I feel like my opinion is not considered at all. She even takes it to the next level by saying "your not the same person anymore" and anything that goes along with it. Should a few stupid fights lead her to say that? And furthermore, how can I get her to even think about my opinion for a split second, even if she does disagree with it because her answer is almost always "No."?

-- Contributed by: Michelle

My mother hates me. Never get ANY freedom.

-- Contributed by: Sarah

Hi Svarlet, Check out the Teen Team's answer to your question posted in the above article!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

My mom had a really bad childhood. I mean like REALLY bad.. it could be a movie..haha. Well alot of bad things have happened to me, and i try to be a very strong person, i almost NEVER cry. Recently something happened to me and i couldnt control myself. I couldnt stop crying and my mom said what she always says "suck it up, I have been through more than you can imagine". or "Stop being so emotional!" So then I feel like I cant go to her for anything I pretend to be okay even when i just found out my grandpa has cancer. I mean i understand if she doesnt want to listen to me be upset about little things but how can i ever be open with her when she yells at me for crying about important things?

-- Contributed by: Stephanie

My mom doesn't trust me ever since the divorce. She won't even let me leave the house, unless I'm standing right there in front of it. I am 14 and have a boyfriend. It is hard to do anything together. My mom doesn't like my looks. She wants me to be a cheerleader and girly. I'm a skater. She told me I look hideous. Help!

-- Contributed by: Svarlet

To say my mother and I aren't close is a massive understatement. We rarely have a conversation without it turning into an argument. And when we do, I'm holding back so much resentment for whatever shes saying that we end up having a bigger argument later on anyway. We never really "talked" as mothers and daughters should, and I fell out with her a lot as a child. She called them my tantrums, and said I never grew out of the "terrible twos". But over the last few years lack of communication has worsened dramatically. Theres been a lot of problems between me and the rest of the family, and it's safe to say I'm really isolated. Luckily, more recently I'd built bridges with my Dad, and we have a strong relationship now. Unfortunately, a few months ago, my parents divorced and he's moved out. I see him quite regularly, but ideally I'd prefer to live with him. He'd like me to live with him as well, but my mother has strangely put her foot down. She says she wants me to live with her, and is prepared to fight in court. Me and my Dad admitted defeat and he's currently renting a room somewhere until the financial settlement is over (so theres no way for me to live with him at the moment anywhere). A similar situation arose over Christmas and my mother banned me from seeing my Dad on Christmas day saying "she wanted me here." Her friend later told me it appeared to more a case of she didn't want me to be with my dad. She saw it as he was "winning" something. So I suspect its the same thing with living arrangements.

How can I convince my mum to put the bitterness between her and my dads' split aside and see that living with her is not the best thing for me emotionally? (considering anytime I talk to her about the way I feel she takes it as a criticism and immediately "attacks" me back in defense.) I feel like she's treating life as a strategic game and I'm caught up in the middle. She says things she thinks makes her look a good mother, but I know different.

-- Contributed by: Rebecca

Hello ! I'm a thirteen year old girl, and my mother does not allow me to go out often . My curfew is 6:30 pm and I think it's too early . All my friends have all the freedom they have but why cant I have any? Please tell me what to do to make my mother let me go out and have freedom.

-- Contributed by: confused

I don`t know how to deal with my mother. I mean I help with everything I can and I know that she is like really stressed and everything, but she constantly yells at me. And I am always last on her priority list, I`m always stuck with my niece who lives with us, and if I ask her to due even the littlest thing that causes her inconviences, she flips! Sometimes it gets so bad I even resort to cutting. How can I explain to my mom how she is making me feel?

-- Contributed by: Michelle
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