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Jomarie,

He's probably stepped back from you because he doesn't want to deal with the drama of jealousy. I am not sure what you meant by your mother getting in the way of you two being together but if you want to make things right after your jealous outburst, apologize and let him know that you are cool with whoever he wants to talk to. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

okay im 17 and im in love with this guy named Edward Mack Jr. he's 18 and ive only gone out with him since Nov.1 2008, and he broke up with my on Jan. 4 2009... i love him so much i cant seem to forget about him.. i asked him if he still loves me and he said he's afraid to say it cause he told me that he's been hurt alot of times... cheated on... but i told him and i made a promise that i would never do that... But me and him go to the same skool he's a 12th grade and im 10th... April 1 he huged me and kissed me out of nowhere and told me he loves me... and now i got so jealous cuz i saw him with his ex. and that i really got mad... And now he wont talk to me cause he told me that it childish of getting jealous at a stupid thing. So i called him and txted him sayin that i was truely sorri.. and now he never replied to any ofm y phone calls or txt. I really miss him and he's the only one that makes me strong... He's been there for me when i was sent to the hospital... when i was going through depression and now i cant live without him.. i dnt know what to do cause i really love him and i told him that so many times and that he says he does care and love me alot.. but the only thing is gettin n the way is my mother

What should i do?

-- Contributed by: Jomarie

Thanks, Marcelina. =)

-- Contributed by: Lucie

Lucie,

What a heartbreaking story! It must be so sad and frustrating to lose touch with someone you care for so much. The only thing you can do is hope that he contacts you sometime soon. You will know (in time) when it is time to move on (if he doesn't contact you again). Good luck to you.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

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I'm 13, and my boyfriend's 14. We met when I went on a month holiday to Denmark. I live in England... that's probably the recipe for heartbreak, right? Anyway, since I came back to England, we've only been in contact via email and MSN. It wasn't as good as speaking to him in real life, but it was better than nothing. A while ago (3rd November 2008) he told me he was moving house and wouldn't have internet for a while. I was really upset - our only communication method was being cut off! But the thing is, I haven't seen him since. I know he loved me, and I know that I love him (There's something you should know about me, I act older than my 13 years. He thought I was 15 before I told him!) and he wasn't just my boyfriend, he was a true friend too, someone I could rely on, who made me laugh. I miss him so bad. I want to trust that I'll see him again but should I keep holding on?

-- Contributed by: Lucie

Hi Confused, This person doesn't really sound like your friend. She is using you to help her pass classes - not cool. Second, she enjoys hurting you on purpose in front of other people. It is time to either confront her or lose her like luggage. With friends like that, who needs enemies?

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Trinity, It can be difficult when your friends aren't really that interested in your love life. However, now is the time to take control of the situation yourself. You have a few options - talk with this person on a cell phone, email, myspace, facebook or wherever they hang out on the web. You can also try to talk to them in person - find out where they like to hang out and just "happen" to be there to. At some point you're going to have to make a move if you want him to know you're interested.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I've got a friend, who I told who I was crushing on... she told my entire class. I got really upset, but forgave her. Now she's always calling me mean as I wont let her copy off me in a test and if I just do something, like sit in her seat by accident, she tells me to move in an awful way. The rest of my friends like her, and I'm scared I'll lose them if I stand up to her. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: confused

I have recently started liking this guy but I don't seem to know what to do. I want to talk to him. Well, at least become his friend or something. The problem is he seems so far away. My friends are trying to help me, but they don't seem to make an effort out of it. I have stopped asking them to help. Until today, my problem still isn't solved. I really want to get to know him better, but I don't know how. I want to talk to him, but I don't have any guts. HELP ME!

-- Contributed by: Trinity

Hi Victoria, If you broke up with this guy, and you found a new one, why do you have to keep it a secret? Are you hoping your old boyfriend will change his mind and take you back? Sounds like he didn't treat you right the first time around. There is no real reason for you to keep this new relationship a secret, if it is "for real," everyone will find out about it eventually. May as well take the plunge now and let the chips fall where they may.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I used to talk to this guy January 2008-May 2008 and we broke up for some strange reason that I still don't know. But I started liking this guy that he just recently became friends with, and that the new guy and I just started "messing around." Now it's confusing because we don't want to make our relationship known because it will mess up their friendship. But at the same time we do want to make it known because we really like each other. It's just all so confusing!

-- Contributed by: Victoria

Hi Swati, Personally, I'm surprised any girl would put up with a guy telling her what she can, and cannot wear. Unless you're wearing gold lame mini skirts and standing on a street corner, he should keep his opinions to himself. You also mention he doesn't like you being friendly with other people. Does that include your friends too? If so, this "serious" relationship has drifted into the "dark side." No adult relationship should consist of one partner telling the other person how they should behave or have any control over what they do, within reason, of course. Sounds like this guy is holding on a little too tightly.

The only suggestion is to tell him point blank that he is being a little too clingy or manipulative. You're not married to him- imagine how controlling he'd be then! You need to take a step back and take an honest look at this relationship. If he can't stand the honesty, then it is time to move on before it is too late- he may become abusive. Life is too short- you don't need someone telling you how to live it.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, I have been dating a guy for the last 3 years. We are in a serious relationship. I really love him and he also loves me a lot, but the problem is he always restricts me. I mean he always has a problem with my choice of clothes and also with my attitude of being friendly. I have changed myself a lot for him, but he's never satisfied. We usually fight because of this. I don't want to dump him, but please suggest what should I should do so that he also understands my feelings.

-- Contributed by: swati

Hi Lobo, Well, why do you want to be alone with her? Is it for conversation, because you'd like to talk with her without the distraction of a group of friends, or simply because you enjoy her company. If he doesn't buy any of these reasons, just try to stick it out a little longer and suggest group dates for now. If you can prove to him that you can keep curfews that he sets for the dates and keep out of trouble, he'll be more apt to go for the one-on-one dates in the future. Avoid sneaking around to date- if he can't trust you, he'll never agree to letting you "officially" date his little girl!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, I'm Lobo and I've been dating my girlfriend for three years. We go to each others houses and we go hang out with friends and stuff, but I have to ask her dad if I can start dating her, just the two of us. Her dad is most likely going ask why we need to be alone. What should I say?

-- Contributed by: Lobo

Hi Kalli, You are still very young to be worrying about dating someone long-term. When you say "doing" this guy, I hope you mean dating, not having sex at your age. Nevertheless, breaking up is always difficult. You didn't say how far away he is moving. If it is only a few towns away you could still see each other on the weekends and call, text or email each other to keep in touch. If he is moving very far away, eventually you'll find other people because you'll both become lonely for other company. I think you should make the best of the time you have together and stay best friends. Even if he is far away, there's no reason you can't still stay in touch- as friends.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi I'm Kalli and I'm 13. I have been doing this guy over a year now. This coming year his family is moving away. It's hard to face that he's moving and I have fears that the long distance will make us drift apart. I really do have strong feeling for him; we have been dating on and off for three years. I honestly think I'm taking this to hard. He's like my best friend and boyfriend all in one. I don't know how I'm going to deal with this because I don't believe in long distance relationships. How can I deal with this? Do long distance relationships work?

-- Contributed by: Kalli

Hi Sk8r, Isn't your guy going to find out eventually that you are a wiccan? I would think that any relationship worth having has to be based on the truth. You can't hide who you are forever- eventually he is going to find out. Why don't you start by finding out how much he knows about being a wiccan? You could educate him about it a little, going slowly. Then when you "come clean" about it, perhaps he won't be freaked out. People usually distrust that which they don't understand. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I am 14 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months. I haven't told him that I am a wiccan and I don't want it to clash our relationship? Advice?

-- Contributed by: sk8r

Hi Laila, Given the new information, I can only think of two things to say: either he is incredibly immature and thoughtless to write things like that and let you see it, or two, he really doesn't want a committed relationship with one girl and this is how he is letting you know. Personally, I'd give him his walking papers if for no other reason than he is a thoughtless cad.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Charlotte, what's worse is we still happen to be together, and he has things like "Going crazy over you ... " *insert some random girl name here and a heart* .. and tells me she's just a friend. I don't know if he's doing it on purpose, but I know it's embarrassing having my friends see that, and seeing it right in front of me. I don't know, I'm just hurt and have no idea what to do.

-- Contributed by: Laila

Hi Laila, Most of your questions could be answered by talking with your guy friend directly. Ask him the questions that you posed in your note- he's the only one who can answer them. Many times people want to sever ties when they realize that things are going to drastically change in their lives, such as graduating and going off to college, or even in your case, going to another country. Long distance relationships are difficult to say the least. Perhaps he thinks it would be easier on you both to break up now and get it over with, granted it isn't very mature, but the only way to find out what is going through his mind is to have a heart-to-heart. Hopefully, he'll be willing and you can enjoy the rest of the time you have together. Good luck and hang in there!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Melanie, You've only been seeing him for 4 weeks and you already have nothing to say. I think if you think you want to break up, why prolong the agony? Other people can't tell you what to do; you have to follow your heart and think of all the pros and cons before you make a decision. If you want to break up, and can't bring yourself to say it on the phone, write the guy a note. No one likes being strung along, so you need to let him know how you feel. If you want to stay friends, the only way to do so is to be kind and set him free, gently.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Okay, well I read all of these and I feel even worse. I've been in a relationship for about 4 weeks and my boyfriend has already graduated, but I'm still in school. So, obviously he's older than me. I honestly kind of want to end the relationship because on the phone we have absolutely nothing to say and it's extremely awkward, but I think it's because we moved a little too fast or something. If we break up, since he doesn't go to my school, I won't see him. We most likely won't be friends and I really want to because he's a great guy. So I feel like if I break up with him I'll for sure regret it. What should I do? If you honestly think I should break up with him, how do I do it when I can't even open my mouth about it when we're talking on the phone. It's getting harder and harder.

-- Contributed by: melanie

My case is really messed up. This guy and I have grown really close over the last year, we've been hanging out excessively and everything was falling into place. We went out this one time and he kissed me, and it was great and everything and we got close and were always holding hands. We looked like a perfect couple, but not in front of the people we knew, no one knew what was going on with us.. Sometimes I felt like he was embarrassed, but whatever. We never said we were officially together, but it was always implied, you know the making out, the nicknames, the "I love you's" and everything made it all extremely obvious. Then, he leaves for 10 days, comes back, we get into a fight and realizes he's graduating in a month and I'm leaving the country. I don't get it; why can't we enjoy the next 4 months together instead of living the rest of our lives regretting it? Could he be embarrassed of our relationship? Does he think nothing more of me than a friend with benefit? Because on my part... I'm in love.

-- Contributed by: laila

Hi Clara, Since I don't know your boyfriend, I can't answer for him. If you aren't sure where you stand with him, it is best to confront him in person. Find out if the two of you are still an item or not. A lot of people don't like confrontations, nor do they like to break up with someone and risk a scene. His actions may indicate he needs some space, or maybe he just doesn't know how to break up with you. The only way to find out for sure is to ask him.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

My best friend got mad at me not too long ago. I wrote him a letter telling him I was sorry even though it would really hurt me. I told him it was his decision if he wanted to break up with me. During P.E I asked him if he wrote back and he said "no." I said, "okay," so later that day I called him, but he wasn't home. So I just waited until the next day to call again and he answered me. I asked if he was mad and he said "no." We were talkin all cool, but he wouldn't say "I love you" or anything. He always calls me babe, so I'm not sure if we're still going out. He never told me it was over, but I'm not sure. Is he acting like this because he's still kinda mad or what?

-- Contributed by: Clara

Hi Haylea, your question was originally posted on the Ask the Teens Expert page. It hasn't been answered yet; it was only posted to the page.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I can't find my question, and I got an email that said it had been answered, what to do?

-- Contributed by: haylea

Hi my name is Alexus and I am 13. This boy and I were dating for about a year and a couple of months....we really liked each other (I think he liked me) well back to the basics. I really liked him and a year and a couple of months is a lot of time to think about if you think you want to be in love with somebody. Okay, he broke up with me, but we were still in love, still kissing each other, or whatever you want to call it. Basically what I am saying is that I really love him. The last time I saw him was July 15, 2007 and its now February 13, 2008. We talk on MySpace off and on (thats once in a blue moon), and he says stuff that gets me in my feelings. He says stuff that upsets me and he says stuff that makes me cry. I cry almost everyday when I think about him. I cry over him because I miss him a lot. If you haven't figured it out by now, he is really my young love. I can't call it love because if you aren't 21 then it young love. I love him so much and this is how I get payed back- it's like he stepping on my heart. He is basically tearing my heart apart.....I need help. Can anybody help me please?

-- Contributed by: Alexus

Hi. I'm 13. My boyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. But the thing is that I don't know what to do because I thought I was over him, because I started liking another guy. But then I stopped liking the other guy and I found out that I'm not over him.

My ex-boyfriend and I talk sometimes, but every time we talk we get into a really big fight or he says some really mean things and I just loose it and start crying or if we are on IM then I would just block him.

I don't know why he broke-up with me but what hurts is that he was going to kiss me that weekend when we were going to go to the movies.

I really loved him. But now I have doubts that he even liked me. And he is the one that asked ME out! We only went out for like 3 or 4 months but those 3 or 4 months made me fell that I really loved him. I'm really confused, so I would really like some advice. Thanks!

-- Contributed by: Abrella

Lets say your girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you like a year ago and they told you what happened because they felt like it was the right thing to do you break up get back together you forgives them and say "I Wont bring this back up." but a year later you bring the past back up and it causes problems in your realtionship then you want to break up with you because of what happened a year ago is that the right thing to do?

-- Contributed by: YoYo

i have a girlfriend who is very beautiful but proud. well of recent i am being accused of stealing. she is like i want to leave this guy . despite all my explanations and love words . she feels tired. what should i do to remedy this situation. she also takes advantage of the fact that many boys are asking her out to toment me

-- Contributed by: nju bertrand

Hi Spice,

What's up? When you say you are alone, do you mean you don't have any family, or are you just feeling lonely? Are you a runaway? Drop me a line and I'll respond quickly!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

i am alone can u help

-- Contributed by: spice
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