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Hi Someone, Well, the best way to get over someone is to find someone else or at the very least, throw yourself into a fun activity. While it is hard to get over a guy, this one obviously has moved on, as should you. You deserve better than a lying, cheating guy anyway! Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and walk away with your dignity intact.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Your site is very informative, though I would lke to make some comments regarding teens first kiss. I think its best to advice these teens to reserve their first kiss to their future husband or wife. The benefits of it - teens will be far from temptation. Kiss on the hands or forehead might be safe as well as holding hands. I based this advice from couples who have a successful and long lasting relationship. Another thing, a God centered relationship is the best relationship. Have a nice day! :)

-- Contributed by: jillian

There is this guy , i think i love him well i know i have a major crush on him . And well he has a girlfriend now , but before they got together and even knew each other me and him flirted a lot and at his brothers birthday he told me that im special for him and that he likes me and will like me no matter what . But now he has a gf and im really confused . I know i have a big crush on him still and hes best friend told me that he misses me but i dont know if i should believe him again . Well he has lied and hurt me much tho . And no matter what i do i still like him , what should i do ??

-- Contributed by: someone

Hi Mandi, Sounds like he is into you, judging by your description of the two of you dancing. If you want more out of this relationship, try being a little proactive and ask him out. You don't have to do the whole "datey" thing- you could just ask him out for a snack or coffee after school- just to see how things go.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I hung out with my guy friend on homecoming and we were togather the whole time we slow danced and grinded. He's always giving me hugs and we talk all the time. My friends think he's ugly because he has dredlocks (which is kinda nasty but I don't mind) I keep hintig that I want him to ask me out but I don't know if he gets it. Then at lunch he hangs out with me and someother girls too but he never hugs them. I don't know if he likes me or not. He also introuced me to all his friends and they seem to like me. Oh and I told him I looked ugly at homecoming and he was like no you did't you looked fine. When he said fine does that mean pretty? Help! do u think he likes me? What do I do? I like him.

-- Contributed by: Mandi

Hi Vivian, Did this boy reciprocate- were you actually dating? If not, he may not have had a clue that you were crushing on him. Either way, if your friend is now dating him, the best thing to do is try and be happy for her, or risk losing her friendship. Remember, boyfriends come and go, but a good friendship can last a lifetime.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hey. I'm 13...Last year, I was COMPLETELY in love with a boy. we had many similarities, and I don't like him for looks or anything. The problem is, this school year, he's suddenly dating a girl that's my friend..I just feel very broken. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: vivian

Hi Kailee,

It can be difficult to know if a guy likes you. You will have to pay close attention to the way he acts around you. Here is an article that may help you look out for the signs that he likes you: How do You Know if a Boy Likes You

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Im Kailee. Im 12. I like this dude named Cash. I really don't know if he likes me. If he does I want to have a relationship with him, but if he doesn't I still want to be his friend. So how do I tell him if I like him? Or, How do I see if he likes me? -Kailee

-- Contributed by: Kailee!

Hi Helen,

It's going to be tough to find out if he likes you if you are shy and so is he. Someone is going to have to give in and share some feelings. You might want to just start talking to him more and enjoying his company. As you get closer to him, you may be able to tell a little more about his true feelings for you. All you can do is wait and see if you can't muster up the courage to tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I am 12 and I have this crush on one of the popular boys in school. I am popular too, and we both play tons of sports. I didn't know him last year very well in the 6th grade, but talked to him through friends. This year I am in all of his classes. The thing is, I learned when i was in the 6th grade that his father died when he was little. He is really sweet and understanding. The thing is, he hides his feelings. I have no clue if he likes me or not but we talk about stuff every day, but he talks to other girls too. He never flirts though. Here is the thing.... I am too shy to ask him if he likes me or ask him out, and so is he! How do I know? And Lastly, none of my family knows because my older sister has a crush on his brother but obviusly he doesn't like her back. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I can't stay away from my crush because he is so easy to talk to and knows how i feel!!! My mom probably doesn't want me going out with someone either, But i want to know if he likes me. What do I do????

-- Contributed by: Helen

Hello,

It's difficult to get up the courage to ask someone out but it's the only way you will truly know if he has feelings for you. If you want to feel more comfortable around him, hang out with him without the pressure of wondering if he wants to go out with you. Just have fun with him by sharing laughs and conversation. As time goes on, you may muster up the courage or he may just ask you out himself! Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

hi I have a crush on this guy he's really cute & funny I love more than i have ever loved a boy I am really shy when it comes to boys, I kind of ask him out, but am scared that he will say no-what shall I do???

-- Contributed by: anonmus

Hi Meghan,

It sounds like he wants the best of both worlds. He wants you to be available for him but doesn't want the commitment. He's playing games with your emotions and you don't deserve that. While it may be hard to let him go, it's the only way to find someone who will truly treat you the way you should be treated. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Im ex m8s with a guy i met on halloween,became close but never hung out..we started fightin on x-mas eve cos i wrote on bebo i liked my bffs cousin jokingly..he got mad at me sent me a message'cuz' and blocked me....i was upset about it,i ended up turnin emo...a few wks ago he IM'ed me saying sorry and wantin to b m8s again..i was thrilled and was in a great mood,a week l8r he ignored me and told me he didnt wanna be m8s n says he dnt lik me that way>love..but he gets crazy jls wen im hangin with boys,HELP

-- Contributed by: does he like me or not?

Hi Carrie,

He's probably become shy once you found out that you like him. Just continue being friendly with him and things may get a bit more comfortable between the two of you. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

There's this kid that is ALWAYS fooling around with me. When we are playing a game (like basketball) he will push me as if he didn't mean to do it. Obivously he meant to though. Also his friend came up to me and told me my crush liked me, and then my crush asked me if his friend told me and i said yes. And now it kinda seems as if he ignores me now, i'm kinda guessing he isn't interested, and i still like him. What should i do?? plz help.

-- Contributed by: Carrie

Nora, If he's always hugged you and only hugged you closer because you asked him to then he's probably just being a really good friend. If you want to further things along, you may want to ask him if he wants to hang out. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

hi. ok well i turned 15 about a week ago in march. Lately everything has been super stressful and i have had a crush on a guy for three years since 6th grade(but i've known him since 5th) and i did write it in his yearbook last year in 8th grade.But i stupidly acted on crazy feelings for some other guy and went out with but then broke up with him four days later cuz i knew i was hurting him so if the 3-year-crush had anything to say, i really didn't give him a chance.this year me and the 3-year-crush are in highschool and are still friends.this wednesday i was upset because my friend was crying so when i saw him and he gave me a hug(like usual), he hugged me loosely but i told him"can you just hug me?" and he did. he held me tighter and i felt comforted. he asked what was wrong and i told him. i was hugging him like he was hugging me and when he asked what was wrong, he said it in my ear quietly and wierdly concerned. he didn't hear me so he pulled a little bit away to try and see me in the eye,he's a head taller,turned his face to mine all close. i told him but avoided lookin at him. i didn't know what else to say so i just let go and said bye quietly and left with the rest of my friends to check on the one that was still crying(she disappeared way before with another one of our friends when the bell rang).i don't know what that hug meant. i'm not sure if it meant anything. when i was trying to get ovr him t the beginning of the year,i didn't hug him(but eventually gave up and did) and he looked hurt when i didn't. What does it mean? he's always nice to me.

-- Contributed by: watsitmean

Hi Dani,

I think you know what to do, it's just actually doing it that is difficult. You don't like your boyfriend so you need to end the relationship with him, whether your BFF likes you or not. It's not cool to string him along. After you end things with your current boyfriend, then you can pursue things with your BFF. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Dear Melissa and Katie, 

Im stuck between two guys!We're in the same school.The first guy is my boyfrind.he is nice and a good-looking boyfriend.The second guy is my bestfriend(boy).He is funny,sweet,nice and smart.

I like the second guy but my boyfriend doesn't know it.I don't know why im dating with my boyfriend.I never like him.I think im forcing my heart to like him.

Me and the second guy never talk.But we text each other A LOT!Two days ago,he told me that he like me since we met.I dont know what to do or what to say.

What should i do with my boyfriend?What should i do with My BFF?Who should i choose?


-- Contributed by: Dani~

Ivan,

If you don't think she likes you, then you might want to wait to ask her out until you know a little more if she does or not. If you are anxious to find out, you can always take the leap and ask her...you may be surprised by her answer! Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Kinda Confused,

He could have told you that story about the other girl to see how you would react. Maybe he really wanted to find out if you like him by seeing if you would get jealous. OR he really does like that girl and he is just playing around with you. I would be careful here with your emotions... you don't want to start thinking he really likes you and then he asks some other girl out. I would be as distant as possible while still being his friend. Start talking to some other guys and get to know them, you may find someone you like as much as he likes you. Another benefit of this is if this boy really does like you, you will see him change when he sees you talking other guys. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Okay, so i am friends with this guy and we've been kind of getting close and all. Like we talk everytime...or should i say we text a lot, but we also talk in school too. So, ever since homecoming (i was princess and he was prince) i started to feel as if i liked him, but i dont know if this feeling is true or not...because i have had this feeling before and it didnt really end that great. Well, i feel as if i like him and everyone thinks we like each other, but i always tell everyone that i don't like him. One day, he was telling me about this girl who he knew from his old school and that they might get together or something. I figured out that i didnt like him...but sometimes i feel as if i do...UGH. Anyways, so he says that they might get together, but he is not so sure and he is planning on asking her out. The only thing is...is that they barely see each other anymore and it would kind of be hard for them. But before he told me that story he asked me if i liked him because he thought that the rumors were true and he didnt want anything to be weird between us and that it wouldnt be right for him to start something with someone while he is still possibly getting with the girl. Well, i kinda didnt exactly answer him, but he told me the story anyways. So i think i convinced myself that i don't like him, but the thing is...i keep telling myself that, but it still seems like i do. Plus, he talks 2 me a lot, text me constantly, and sometimes flirts with me and we get along really well. Sometimes i think that he likes me, but then i remember about that girl that he told me about...so he couldn't have feelings for me...can he??? So i really don't know and i am kinda confused here. Any advice?????

-- Contributed by: Kinda Confused

Me and my friends like this girl named Lisa and I am the 1 she talks to the most and hangs out with i dont think she likes me thought. Should i ask her out?

-- Contributed by: Ivan

Can't get over him,

It's difficult to get over a guy you have a crush on. Try as best as you can not to call him because it will just fuel your emotions. You will probably still think about him but that will subside with time as long as you don't give into your urges to contact him. Good luck to you...

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

ok well, last year when i was in 8th grade,there was a boy in 7th who i started having a crush on. We used to go to the park together with our other friend(girl) and we'd just hang out. whenever she wasn't looking or was going to the swings or something, if he was by me, he'd move closer and not say anything. he would look straight in my eyes and i always looked away cuz it would make me blush of how close he was. we txted a lot and we were great friends. he found out last febuary that i liked him and he said he cared when i asked him if he cared about how i felt. But sometimes he'd act like a jerk and make me upset. he flirted with other girls and he had a lot of girlfriends(not at the same time though) when he flirted with me. he led me on but it felt like he did care for me. now i'm in high school and he is in the 8th grade. i don't see him, although he lives down the street from me, and i saw him twice when i was walking the dog with my sister or my mom. these few months i've been thinking about him alot often.none of my friends or any my sisters don't want me talking to him. but i callede once cuz i felt that i NEEDED to talk to him. i just didn't know why. so last week i called and it went to voicemail, to tell him to erease my # from his fone. but this week i almost called him because i was so stressed out. i don't know why i need 2 talk to him so much or when i'm so stresesd out. i don't want to think about him at all butlately he just pops back into my head again and again. how can i get over this crush?

-- Contributed by: can'tgetovrhim

Scared,

The only thing you can do is take his word about these girls being just his friends. If he does something to betray your trust with these girls, then you probably should break it off with him. As far as the kissing, check out these articles for kissing tips:

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

There is this guy I really like, and he's asked me out before, and I have turned him down. But then John(the guy who asked me out) asked me out again, and I said yes. He is cute, but we always talk online emailng,iming, etc. So we both like eachother a ton, but we rarely talk in person. We both agreed that we wanted to kiss eachother, but it would be my first kiss! Please give me some tips.... and since he is really popular a lot of girls like him, like 8 that I know of! Sometimes he hangs out with the girls who like him, and he says he only like them as "friends" but I'm not to sure. Also, I don't know if I should break up with him cause he talks to other girls sometimes, but some of his friends say he really likes me. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: ~~Scared

Dee,

If you ignore him, he will never know that you like him. Be casual about it and just talk to him as a friend. It can be difficult because you think he is so cute but just start off with a smile, hello and how are you and you will be fine.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

I really like this guy at me school. He is super cute, but I can not seem to have the courage to talk to him. I am afraid that he will laugh in my face. Should I talk to him, or should I just ignore him??

-- Contributed by: Dee

Hay i'm Amia Im 14 soon to be 15. Some months ago this new kid comes to my school.He's cute but I think nothing of him until about a month later.I walk in his class to come and get my coat .I pay no attewntion to him. As i'm walking out of the class and he stops me and starts small talk .From there the usual you know talk,hugging, and googly eyes LOL!When I try to tell my friends about him no one knows who he is now that every body sees us hugging and things like that people start noticing him.Now all the girls think he's cute also he's very popular now with the girls.That was before this is now he barely even speaks to me and if he does I have to speak first.Now he flirts with any girl he can and when he's done he comes and hugs me.And just this week I was talking to him and he was texting another girl while talking to me.The girl knows that I like him.I still like him with a passion.What should I do? I'm clueless.

-- Contributed by: Amia

Hi Everyone, Please visit the Teen Team on their new web page for advice!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Dear Really Confused, I think she probably gets the hint that you like her, after all, you said she was gorgeous. So now, it is time to actually ask her to do something with you, either in a group or alone. Find something that you both like to do, like hanging out in a particular place at school or locally. Ask her to a movie, out for coffee, to study together, anything! This will give you a chance to get to know her better and decide whether she is destined to be your girlfriend or not. Hang in there!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I have this friend that I haven't known for very long, but I've always thought she was very gorgeous. She lives in my town. We talk pretty much everyday. Like we will text or something. Then the other day I saw her at the store, but she walked by and didn't see me. I was going to wait 'til she walked back by to say hi. So i did that and then she said hi and I gave her a hug. When I saw her, my heart like started beating real fast and all and I was kinda shaking. I really think I like her, but I am not sure if I should tell her and if I do, I don't know how. I mean I kinda hinted that I liked her the other night because she texted me and was like "ugh I wish someone here liked me, but I'm too ugly, so no one would like me." I told her she was gorgeous and that I thought I knew someone that liked her. Should I just tell her that I like her or should I wait and see how things go?

-- Contributed by: ReallyConfused

Totally Confused,

Can you find other activities he does, maybe after school or on the weekend, and join them? Or, find out the places he likes to hang out when not at school and visit him there?

In order to find ways to get to know this guy better, it will be easiest if you find out what sort of things he likes to do when not in class.

Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

Okay this guy who i like im acquaintances with, and the signs are clear that he likes me back like he will look at me and then look away when i look at him and he uses my name alot and hes the kinda guy you have to approach him first but he approached me first but the thing is i just moved back and now its kinda awkward but we are getting there and the only time we have to talk is in gym but we are always busy doing things that i never get the chance to talk to him and i can never find him at lunch how can i get the chance to talk to him?

-- Contributed by: totally confused

Hey, I know for a fact that these two guys like me and Im really flattered and everything but I just don't see them in that way! We bearly get on most of the time so I was really suprised when I found out they liked me! A few months ago I went out with a guy whose good friend with one of the guys who liked me. He was kind of upset at first but I REALLY liked the guy I was dating! When he ended our relationship I was sad and stuff but these two other guys's STILL like me. Why won't they give up? It's driving me crazy becauase I feel like I can't act normal around them anymore. They both know I don't like either of them and they know how it makes me feel - but how can I make them forget it without hurting their feelings to much?

-- Contributed by: Grace

Hi Annie, Only you know whether it was the right thing to say- I don't know either of you. Always do what your gut tells you to- it is usually right.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

There's this boy at school his name is John and he's that type of boy who pretends to like a girl, but then he dumps her for another girl. The other day he told me he liked me and I said "Will you go out with me?" It took me a long time think, but ive decided to say no. John and I have been friends since kindergarten. Will that ruin our friendship? Was that a right choice saying no?

-- Contributed by: annie

Hi cda9, My first question is, how much do you value your friendship with your girlfriend? Are you willing to throw that relationship away for a chance with a guy who is all but cheating on her with you? What makes you think he won't do the same thing to you once he breaks up with her? If you're determined to date this guy, and you want to save your relationship with your girlfriend, you have to let them break up and stay away from him for a while. You can't let her think that someone she trusted was the reason for the breakup with her boyfriend. Then, after a month or so, ask her if it would be okay if you saw this guy. If she says no, then you'll have to decide whether this guy is worth losing your best friend over.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I have a problem. I have a crush in school and he is one of my closest friends. He's pretty popular in school too. His girlfriend is my best friend. The thing is I think my best friend is jealous. Her boyfriend always goes to me, talks to me, leans on my shoulders. He always looks at me. Once when I was very nervous about something,he held my hands. We are even closer than he and his girlfriend are. My best friend and crush don't talk to each other because my best friend is shy even if he is her boyfriend. My best friend once said, her boyfriend and I looked like a couple (in a jealous way). I'm just friends with her boyfriend, but the way he looks at me, may mean something. Her boyfriend wants to break up with her already. What to do? HELP. I don't want me and my best friend to loose our friendship!

-- Contributed by: cda9

Hi Colin, If you forward the message to her she may react in one of two ways: either she'll think you are indiscriminate about who you are willing to kiss, or two, she'll send you an answer (perhaps one you don't want to receive). My advice is to skip this forwarded message and just ask her out if you're interested in her. At the very least you could strike up a friendly relationship with her and find out, one-on-one, if she likes you romantically.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I got this forwarded text message from my friend a couple weeks ago that said, "FW: Lets play kiss or pass. Wud you kiss me or pass? Come on be honest! Lol its all good fun but I need an answer! So text back the answer!"

I want to forward it to several girls around my age to find out if they'd kiss me or not. More importantly, one of them is a friend of mine who I've really liked for a while (she once liked me and may still, which is a mystery to me). I'm skeptical about her receiving the message and how she'll react to it. It's arbitrary: if I send it to the other girls and not her, she may find out and wonder why I didn't send to her, OR I send it to her and she thinks I'm getting way ahead of myself and going too fast (she seems to know I like her). But I still really want to hear if she'd kiss me or not, because to honest, I would kiss her! So...any advice you can offer on whether I'd be making the right choice by making her one of my recipients of the text.

-- Contributed by: Colin

Hi Quentin, Why not just call this girl up yourself and ask her out? The worse thing she can do is say "no," and that isn't the end of the world. At least if you do that, you'll know she really doesn't want to go out. On the other hand, maybe she just wants to hear you ask so she doesn't feel like someone is pranking her.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Really Need Help, First, if you have friends who know this shy guy, why not ask them to find out whether he is interested in you or not? That would solve that problem. Of course, you could also strike up a conversation with him yourself and see where things go. As for the other guy that was your friend's ex-boyfriend, if you aren't interested in him, why pursue it? You don't need a boyfriend for the sake of saying you have a boyfriend.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 14 and there is a girl I like and she's a freshman in public school and I'm homeschooled. I want to ask her out, but when I told my friend he called her and asked her out for me and messed everything up! So I want to ask her out myself, because she rejected me when he called for me. Please give me some ideas!

-- Contributed by: quentin

I'm 13 and I really like this guy. He's studying in the class beside mine. He does not know me, but most of my friends know him because they were in the same elementary school. My friend told me he's a really nice person and he does not bully people. Plus, he's SUPER cute. The thing is I heard there are a few girls that also like him. I'm scared I would not have any chance. How should I find out who he like because he's kinda shy. On the other hand, I found out another guy likes me, but he acts as if he does not. What should I do because he's my friend's ex, although I'm not close to her. Now I'm really really confused because I'm liking that guy more and more, but my friend's ex likes me.

-- Contributed by: Really need help

Hi Sierra, I think you need to be honest with the boy about your situation. Your friends may think it is lame that your parents won't let you date, but you are still a little on the young side for one-on-one dates. What you could do is arrange a group date with your friends and their boyfriends. Parents are usually a little more open to this kind of scenario since you wouldn't be totally alone with this guy. Talk it over with your mom and if she says "ok," talk to your friends to arrange it. Let the guy know why you have been saying "no." He'll feel better about it knowing you don't dislike him.

Whatever you do, don't do things behind your mom's back. It creates feelings of mistrust and it is very hard to gain back trust once it has been abused.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 13 and there's this guy that's in all my classes. I really like him and I know that he used to like me. He asked me out, but I declined because my mom doesn't think that I should have a boyfriend.

Then he finds out that I liked him all along and we started passing notes to each other. He asked me again and I gave him the same answer as before. Now we don't feel as relaxed as we did before around each other.

I don't know what to do. I want to ask him out, but if I do that and he says "yes" I'd be going behind my Mom's back and I don't want to do that. I NEED YOUR HELP! Please help me decide what to do. ~~Sierra

-- Contributed by: Sierra Symons

Hi Hitomi, I know it stinks to get rejected, but "B" has told you that he wants you to stop loving him. He apparently has moved on, but unfortunately you haven't. You are also making it hard on yourself by keeping a close relationship with his twin. I'm guessing you don't want to be known as the local stalker, so now is the time to act mature and stop contacting "B." There is one piece of advice that I can give you- don't try to come between brothers, especially twins. You won't win and you'll probably get hurt emotionally.

It is time for you to get out and meet some new people! Hang out with friends (not the twins), see some movies, develop an interest in a new hobby. Anything but the twins. I understand what you say about not being able to control what your heart wants, but you can control what you do about it.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hello, I'm 17, in grade 11. There's this guy... we'll call him B. He has a twin brother called P. They are not in the same section as I am. B and I dated 3 years ago. Most of his friends are girls and seeing him with other girls made me jealous, so he ignored me. We didn't talk for 6 months. My mother was going to transfer me to another school. When B found out, he talked to me. I thought we were united. Then, I found out I was mistaken. He just wanted to remain as a friend. I accepted. And now, after 3 years, I still love him. We fought in February because of a silly thing. I sent him a message on the phone late at night (Thursday), asking whether he could go out with me on Friday. He didn't reply. I called on Friday and asked him where he was. He said he was on the skytrain going shopping with some of his friends (girls). My heart was torn apart. I was very sad and mad at the same time. I went to his hi5 profile page and said some bad words. Since then, our relationship has changed. I used to be his best friend. Now, I'm not. He has another girl who's his best friend now. I want my position back as his best friend. He asked me today why I still love him. He told me to stop loving him because he knows he's a bad guy. I told him that love is not something I can command to stop. I guess I still love him. Then there's P. He's my best friend. When I have problems with B, I always tell P what's going on. He'll comfort me with his words. I love his company. I have feelings for him. Infatuation I guess? He's a really nice guy too. I've been thinking whether he could help me forget his brother, B. But then, I remembered that he said I am his best friend, nothing more than that. I'm scared that if I tell him I have feelings for him, he will reject me and our relationship will change. What should I do? I still love B too. Am I being bad for this? I'm confused. Please help me.

-- Contributed by: Hitomi

Hi Jocelyn, It is never a good idea to date your teachers (crush in silence if you must). If your teacher acted on his feelings for a student he would get fired and land in jail. I'm sure you wouldn't want this to happen to someone you admire. Read our advice on this subject in Should You Date a Teacher?.

While it is okay to admire an adult, it is healthier to date someone closer to you in age. Your friends are right to push you in that direction. If the guys are flirting with you, obviously they are interested in you. Quit worrying about who you think is hotter than you; the guys seem to be interested in you too! My advice is to chat the guys up who are flirting with you; they are probably trying to figure out how to ask you out. Give them a chance. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Okay, so I have a lot of problems. First of all, I'm 15, and a freshman in high school. I have this HUGE problem with looks, so when guys flatter and flirt with me, I get this weird feeling around them. People think I like them, but I'm just really flattered. Now I have this crush on my young teacher and my friends think I need to start crushing on guys my own age. The three guys I like are taken or have so many hot friends that are girls that I feel too discouraged. I think that they wouldn't even like me at all. Help please!

-- Contributed by: Jocelyn

Hi Ashley, I don't know how old you are, so I can't really gauge whether you need to be asking a guy out or not, or if you should be dating in a group (usually good for younger people). What I can tell you is that if he hasn't made a move, it is up to you to find out whether he likes you or not. You have two choices; ask a very good friend to find out if he likes you or not, or simply take the bull by the horns and ask him yourself. Practice what you want to say to him so you don't freeze up. Prepare yourself if he says no; it isn't the end of the world! Good Luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Annie, The first question I would ask myself is "How trustworthy is the person that gave me the information." Then second, I would go and ask him myself. It is fine to ask friends or "ambassadors" to find out if someone likes you, but you can't always be sure that the information you get back is entirely accurate.

I should also note that 8th grade boys aren't always sure of themselves; girls mature much more quickly. Your guy might just be shy, and doesn't want to tell everyone that he likes you. I can't way whether he likes you or not- I don't know either one of you. All I can do is suggest you follow your heart and ask him to the dance. Even if he says no, at least you'll know if he is interested in you or not.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I really do like this one guy and I don't know if he likes me back. I have never had a boyfriend before. I keep catching looking/staring at me. So should I make a move or what? He found out I liked him last year, but I don't know if he stills thinks that or not! Please help. ~Ashley

-- Contributed by: ashley

Hi, Well I am 13 right now and in 8th grade. I have liked this one guy for about- well I know this sounds weird but since 1st grade when I first met him-(even all of my friends remember me talking about him like all the time) He moved for one year and then he came back, but I never forgot him and I still like him. He has sent little hints that he likes me -well I think they are hints such as... looking at me and seeing what I'm doing all the time and asking me every day what his next class is since he has every class with me - and I don't think it's because he cant remember- but anyways, we have this huge graduation dance for the 8th grade and I want to ask him to go with me. When I asked one of my friends to ask him if he liked me he said no - is that just because he doesn't want to tell them or what - should I ask him to the graduation dance? Plus, do you think he likes me? Please Help ~Annie

-- Contributed by: Annie

Hi Jai, You didn't say how old you are, so I don't know if you are old enough to date. Liking someone isn't really all that difficult. You'll probably have butterflies in your stomach before you talk to him, but if you want him to know how you feel, you'll have to say something. Start by saying hi and talking about something that both of you have in common- an assignment, a school activity, an upcoming sports game. Someone has to break the ice to get things rolling- and these little conversations are usually the best way to go about doing it. Avoid having your friends do the talking/asking for you. It usually turns out badly when you do this. Try the direct approach. Hopefully he is interested in you too and is just as anxious about finding a way to approach you. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Christina, If you are the "girlfriend" one of these guys, not just dating around, you need to either 1)look and don't touch or 2) break up with your boyfriend first before you start dating someone else. It is never a good idea to see another guy behind the other one's back. Someone's bound to get hurt if you do.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 12, almost 13, and my mom hasn't talked to me about boys yet and I really like this one boy at my school. What do I do?

-- Contributed by: jai

I am going out with this guy, and I still like this other guy and he likes me, so what should I do? I like both of them. Help Me!

-- Contributed by: Christina

Hi Helpless Lover, The best you can do, and remain a good girl, is to continue to joke around with him, but not take it to the next level (at least until he doesn't have a girlfriend). Moving in on another girl's guy can cause some real problems, especially if the guy doesn't think of you in that way. I know it is hard, but it is better to worship him from afar, then to hit on him and have the girlfriend find out. Hang in there- most love relationships in high school don't last forever and you'll probably get your chance sooner as opposed to later!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Heather, Sounds like he got his ego crushed when he thought you said no to the date. The only way you can straighten this out, even if he can't get over the rebuff, is to clear up the misunderstanding. I suggest doing it in person, when no one else is around. Your second option is to write a note, but you know how that is- it could make the rounds in school as an object of ridicule. If you let him know what you really meant, he can either return to his normal cute self in your eyes, or he can decide to be a jerk. Either way, you'll have told him the truth and you're conscience will rest easier.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Okay look, I REALLY like this guy Zach and I'm not sure if he likes me or not. He is really sweet and extremely HOT!! I really like him and I don't know what to do around him. He makes me so nervous and he is so sweet! Here is the big BUT though....he has a girlfriend. BUT I think he keeps flirting with me. I know not to do anything while he has a girlfriend, but I have NO IDEA what to do around him. When I say I THINK he is flirting with me I mean.....he smiles at me, he is that funny sarcastic kind of guy so when he makes a joke he looks at me and smiles, when I say something smart he will look at me and smile or mouth something to me. But it's really sweet and I just can't tell you how much I like him. What do I do. I'm not even sure he knows I like him, but I don't want to be too obvious and make things awkward. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!

-- Contributed by: Helpless Lover

hi:]] I like a boy named Dan at my school. He's nice, funny and cute. I thought he felt the same way because he was always flirting with me and stuff. He even asked me out one time, but I couldn't say anything because I was so shocked, so he took it as a "no". Last week I told him I liked him, but he said he didn't like me? How can that be? Now whenever I see him or he sees he he'll be all like "Hi Heather...". because he knows I like him and he's trying to make a joke and that just makes me feel weird. Plus lots of other girls like him. I probably should give up, but i just don't want to and whenever he walks by I get butterflies in my stomach even though I know he doesn't like me back. Help? Thanks so much!

-- Contributed by: heather

Hi Leon S., You need to strike up a conversation with her in class, study hall, or if you belong to a club, talk to her there. You could talk about what the homework assignments are, what is happening at the next club meeting, etc. Your goal is to make conversation with her, even if it is about nothing important. It is much easier to ask someone out once you have some sort of a relationship, even if it is just saying "hi" to them in the hall everyday. Once you get to that point, ask her out with no one else around- it is MUCH easier that way. Try to avoid asking her out through her friends- it almost always backfires.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I have this crush on a girl, but I'm too nervous to ask her out. I don't even know what to say. I really need someones help, what should I do?

-- Contributed by: Leon S.

Hi Cody,

Did you really mean 3 years? If so, then it is time to find a new girl to ask to homecoming this year. Even if you meant 3 days, you should consider asking someone else to homecoming. She said no, and she probably won't change her mind. There are plenty of fish in the sea; find someone who you like and will have fun with. As for this going around the school, it will be old news soon- hang in there!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I asked this girl to the homecoming (she said no), but everybody said I asked her out. It went around the school the next day. Now its been 3 years she won't talk to me what should i do.

-- Contributed by: Cody H.

Hi, I'm a 14 year old guy and theres a girl I find really attractive. Everyone knows I fancy her and I don't know what to do. I've never kissed a girl before and I'm not sure how, and besides I'm dead shy. Another thing is I'm dead ugly and she probably will reject me. Please help!

-- Contributed by: oli

Okay! I am 12, my b-day is next month and Valentines day is in a few days. I have a friend(boy) and we hanged out last year a lot! The more I hanged out with him the more I started to like him! This year we didn't even say hi to each other once. I found out last month he hanged out with these guys I think that are bratty..I know, for a boy! But he's not like that he's nice(to everyone), caring, basically NOT like the guys at my school. I caught him looking at me. I don't know if he likes me? Too shy to talk to me? Should we just be friends? Does he KNOW I like him, is that why he's not talking? Should I make a move? I'm moving this year and I will be in 8th grade in November. I want to tell him but..I cant! HELP! ASAP!

-- Contributed by: confused

This guy showed me that he liked me last year, and now that I've fallen for him, but I don't know how to act normal around him anymore. He just walks in the hallways when I see him without a care in the world. It's like he just stopped liking me or he doesn't care about me anymore, but when I went to my classroom he seemed interested in what class I was going to, since we don't have anymore classes together. He looked in my class to see if I was in there, but he acts like he does not care when we are face to face, walking past each other in the hallways. Should I say hi to let him know how I feel about him, because I know that he has been wondering if I like him. I have not exactly flirted with him, because I don't want to be hurt, but I have been polite to him. For instance when he stared at me I stared back at him, and when he helped me on a project I said thank you. How do I show him I care without getting nervous and frustrated.

-- Contributed by: Rose

I’m 17 and I’m out of high school. I have known this guy for three years and we have been friends. We started dating the end on November and it was going good till after Christmas. He is so sweet, caring, and everything I could ask for in a guy. We have been fighting a lot and were both tired of it. He’s my first love; I’m his first love. We want to be together, but he gets mad and I get mad easily and that’s kind of getting in the way of things. He says he will love me and always will, but right now he wants to take a break for a couple of days and its just hurting me when he said that. I can’t sleep at all at nights cause its all I think about. I could really use your advice on this and on what I should do because I have not clue my heart tells me one things and my mind is telling me the other and its confusing me big time... should I leave him before I get left or should I stick it out?? ~~Shaella

-- Contributed by: shaella

Alrighty. I’m 13, and I’m midway through 8th grade. There's this guy who I like (no duh) who is super cute and nice. He's friends with everyone! Even the snobby girls- who change personalities when he's around (if we date, that might be an advantage!!). Obviously, he's popular, and lots of girls like him. But sometimes, he smiles towards me, and he acts sort of clumsy around me. It might be just me imagining it though. But he was also interested in what I was writing to my friends when we sat next to each other (my friends and I write BUNCHES of notes). Still, I don’t know if I really like him, or if it's just the attraction-, which isn't good. INLCUDING I’m super shy (if we do go out, it'll be my 1st date OMG). Another thing is that he's as cool as my brother. Really, they both play guitar, same clothes, SUPER funny, and are popular. My bro and I have the same personalities, and to me he does too, kinda. Should I go for it?? ~~ShyFactor

-- Contributed by: Paula

Dear Melissa and Katie, I have a couple of questions, but first let me tell you a little about myself. I'm 14 and a freshman in high school. I am very cautious when it comes to guys and very picky. Ok. Well, I have a crush on 3 guys. The first is extremely cute and seems really nice, from what I know. The problem is I've never really have had a conversation with him before and he already knows I like him. The second guy isn't really that cute, but has a great sense of humor and is really sweet. The third well... he is known for breaking up with a girl after about a week and hooking up with someone else the next day, but I've talked to him before and he's really funny, kinda sweet and extremely hot! Another thing is he likes one of my best friends and she likes him back. I really don't know who to chose it seems like they all like me because they constantly stare. Then, there is the whole problem with one of my best guy friends liking me. Just today he asked a friend of mine if I liked him and she didn't say anything. I really don't want for him to ask me to the semi-formal and me have to say no, but I'm scared if I say no he won't be my friend anymore. And lastly, the semi-formal. My mom said I can't go without a date. The fact is I don't know if I should wait for one of the three guys to ask me or if I should ask one of them....and which one to ask. How do I know which guy truly likes me? How do I chose between them? What should I say to my best guy friend? And what do I do about the Semi-formal? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!

-- Contributed by: Katherine

So here's the thing: I've been secretly in love with my ex-best friend, Reid S, for over 6 years now. I told him 2 years ago, but he rejected me... and not in a nice way. I think that that's why we stopped being best friends forever. Shortly after, I went moved away and started middle school. I've told my friends that still go to his school that I'm over him... but I feel like I'm only half over him... because I'll still fantasize and dream about him. But, ever since last year, I started REALLY liking this guy in my class, Nick. He keeps on seeming to like me, but every one says that it's just my imagination... what do I do? Every day, my feelings for Nick grow stronger... I think that I'm in love. But how can I tell him? I've had a constant crush on him ever since I started middle school middle school, but I'm probably the shyest, bookworm in the class! Also, some of my friends have crushes on Nick, too, but they say that it's for his looks. Actually, it wasn't until we had this connecting conversation almost 2 years ago that I started to like him. He seems to be every where that I go, and I'm wanting to ask him out, except that my parents are REALLY strict when it comes to that? I think that I'm in love ... but I don't want to get hurt...again.

-- Contributed by: Hannah

There is this guy I like at school. How can I tell if he likes me?

-- Contributed by: Ashley m.

Dear Melissa and Katie, Here's my story: Love this guy with all my heart, which is funny because when I first met him, I hated his guts. I found out we had a lot in common and I don't mean just the normal stuff, he sees life the way I do but embraces it in a different way and that makes me look up to him. He tries his best even when he fails; he has a good soul and helps people whenever he can. Not to mention he can make me laugh until I cry. But he has a girlfriend. So I tried NOT loving him anymore, I found out I can't. I can't stop thinking about him even though it hurts to think about him.

I don't want to ask him out directly because honestly that is not how it works where I live, I mean, it'll be awkward between us if he says no, and I can't stand that thought. I also don't want to sit here doing nothing. I tried to get over him but can't. Please help.

-- Contributed by: Feeling Down

hai. there's these 2 boys i really like. but i can't choose between them because they also like me. the first guy is my first love. and the other is my new crush. the 1st guy is not that handsome but he he's personality and the way he acts makes me really want to like him. while this other guy i like is so handsome and very2x nice!! huhuhuh... and i can't choose between the two of them! coz i think i'm inlove with them WHAT SHOULD I DO???????

-- Contributed by: larae

I really like this boy. So I decided to tell him and I asked him out. So I'm waiting for the answer for like 4 months and in between these 4 months my feelings for him have been on and off. Just recently I asked him out again. ( it seems like everytime I ask him out he starts to ignore me an that ...es me off). And now I'm jelous because now he just starts to sit next to this girl who I think he likes and she likes him back. Their signs are aries and leo. The most compatible signs . It seems like I will never get a chance to date him. I really want to though I don't know if he feels the same way. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: love him or not?

hey i studying in a university n i have a crush on this guy who studies in the same college as i but in a different class m 18 years old n this is my first crush ever..i have always got the guys i want..n i have never crushed on a guy before but this feels diffferent and i havent spoken to him yet not even a word..wen he comes i just turn my face off like i give no ... 2 him what should i do

-- Contributed by: sarah

i like two boys that attend my church. one of them, makes me want to cry because its like he is not really into me. sometimes i think we are a couple but other times i feel neglected, betrayed and played around. the thing is i really like him. the other one seems to be very nice but the problem is that they are close friends. what should i do???

-- Contributed by: gabriella

I like this guy and his sister told me that he likes me. But the thing is he is homeschooled so we wouldn't see each other alot. Besides that I would go out with him except he is super shy and I'm very outgoing. Any advice?

-- Contributed by: mallisa

I think I might like my best friend. Again. I had a crush on him before and then I told him and he did not feel then same way. He was really nice about it though. And then we started becoming even better friends then we already were. Even though he knew I liked him he never made our friendship different because of it and things were never weird. Eventually I made my self get over him because I knew it would never be anything more then a friendship. Now, we hang out all the time. we go see movies together and hang out at each others houses. Sometimes I start feeling like I still really like him. I know he does not like me like that because he would tell me if he did because that is just the kind of relationship we have. I find myself thinking about him alot. It hurts sometimes because I know he does not like me. When we talk I get jelous when he talks about the girls he likes. What can I do? Is there any other answer other then get over it... because I have tried that, it didn't work out like I planned.

-- Contributed by: Rebecca

I love my reallt good friend. I am a boy and she is a girl. We have known eachother for a little over 3 years. I think she knows I like her and I think she likes me, when I talk to her it's like I am talking to one of my friends. I love this girl with all my heart but I am too scared to ask her out. I am scared that she will reject me and she will tell all of her friends and I will lose what little popularity I have, she will reject me and dosen't tell all of her firneds but she will not want to be friends anymore, she will say no we will still be friends but my friends will not want to be friends with me anymore, (because she may be popular but on one besides me thinks she would make a good girlfriend) she will say yes but I will be scared because it would be my first girlfriend and my first date (which is pathetic because I am 13) and I will freeze up on our date, or if she says yes and we kiss but I don't know how to be a good kisser (because it will be my first kiss) and we will be a good couple but when we break up (which will probably happen after a short, long, or god time) and she won't want to be friends anymore and all of the above will happen all at once! I need help badly. I am 13 and she is 13 but she is turning 14 in march when I just turned 13 december 7. Please help. Also can you please tell me what are the signs of a girl liking me. (If you need to know, she is shy to guys sometimes) Please help me soon! Thanks!!!

-- Contributed by: Joseph

There's this boy that happened to be my seat mate. We weren't close, but now we are already talking and kind of comfortable around each other. He always touches me like in my arms, then in my shoulders. Recently, I found out that he has a girlfriend. However, he still flirts with me. He is always the one who starts to flirt. He even sings in front of me to make me laugh. He has a lovely voice, really. Whenever I'm silent, he would always strike a conversation.Here's another catch, he is so smart that sometimes I feel so dumb in front of him. suck right?

By the way, my friends believe that if he doesn't like me, why would he even bother talking to me, or flirting with me?

Do you guys think he likes me?

-- Contributed by: Tina

well i have a crush on someone and i hang around with him wat can i do

-- Contributed by: adriana paiz
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