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Hi Help Please,

If he has a girlfriend, you have to drop him. You may be interested in him now because he is unavailable, that is common. However, you can't break up his current relationship just to see. Give the guy a break and move on to someone else.

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

okay,in the begining of the school year there was this boy that liked me.He was super nice to me and he asked me out and i said no cause i didnt like him.Now i like him cause i dont know all of a sudden i like him.And he has a girlfriend but he still acts like he likes me.I dont know if he likes me or not what should i do?

-- Contributed by: help please

Hi Stacey,

There are many flirty things you can do to let him know you are interested such as smiling and striking up more conversation with him. For more ideas, check out these articles:

Flirting Tips for Teenagers

Flirting Technique

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Oh my god! I love this guy so much, but he doesn't know it and I can't stop thinking about him. I'll be sat in school doing my work and then he'll pop into my head and I can't get him out or do any work because I just get so smitten. He knows who I am and we see each other every day, but I don't really see him alone. How can flirt really subtly with him so that my friends and his friends don't know about it?

-- Contributed by: Stacey Brocklebank

Hi Boy help!!!

If he says that he likes another girl, then you need to step back and let him decide who he wants to go out with. You don't need to chase after him because actually, that is a turn off. So just keep being friendly but don't act desperate. If it's meant to be, he will ask you out. Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

am 15 and I have a crush on this boy who's a friend of mine. He was in love with me for about 3 years. But suddenly in a school trip a friend of mine said that we looked good together, and I started wondering and thinking of him. I said to myself he is a good person, nice looking, and he has really good grades. So I started getting this feelings for him. But then I told a friend, and she talk to him, and he went to me and started talking about going out. But then sudden I felt this bad feeling, like it was weird so I did not talk to him for about 2 weeks. Well I did talk to him, but not about going out or stuff, and now I have this feelings back. Now I talk to him and he is not like before, and I feel really bad. The other day I started crying. OMG!!! and when I see him I get this feelings I cant handle. So I told my friend and she went to him and asked him, what was wrong. They are very good friends. So he told her that he liked me, but he liked another girl too, and he was confused on what to do. So now I don't know what to do???? Help!!!!!

-- Contributed by: Boy help!!!

Hi Mercy, everyone matures at their own rate- there is no specific guideline for when you should have your period. Most girls begin maturing as early as 9 and as late as 16 or 17. If you're really concerned, talk with your mom and doctor.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm mercy and I'm 11 going on twelve next week. I weigh 115, 4`8 and I haven't even had my period!

-- Contributed by: mercy

I have nothing agaist boys but why do they always assume that our lives are easier than we make out. Like, the other day my best friend stood in front of a mirror in school and screamed to herself. She screamed because the rain had made her hair go frizzy and a guy walk past stopped to pester her about her moaning about nothing for attention. I mean - for god's sake! She only acted like that because she was trying to look good for a certain guy and then his best friend had a go at her for it. Why don't guys get it? It's them we're trying to look good for and they just tell us how we shoudn't care about how we look and we spend to much time in front of the mirror!

Maybe if they lived our lives for a day they'd understand!

-- Contributed by: Grace

Wow, girls are a really good thing to have in life, but it's hard being a girl. Getting ready, all the feminine things we have to deal with. I think some guys think its hard for girls, but they probably don't know how hard it actually is. Some guys think that girls are only about looking good. Sometimes I wish boys had the same things girls had to deal with growing up, but God made us for a reason.

-- Contributed by: jimilee

Hi Abby, if you really like this person, and the feeling is mutual, you should continue seeing each other, even if you're just good friends. A person with a strong sense of self won't worry about what other people say or what they think.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 14 (but will be turning 15 in November) and am going to be a freshman this year, but this boy that i have a huge crush on (and he really likes me too) is only going to be in the 7th grade. He's 13 so he's not that much younger but I'm really scared of what people will think because he would be my first actual boyfriend. Can someone please gimme some advice on what I should do???

-- Contributed by: Abby

Hi Elisa, Sorry to hear about your problem, but you'll probably have to sit swimming out if tampons aren't an option. Swimming in the sea isn't a good idea while you're having your period- when you're not wearing a tampon. Sharks are attracted to blood- need I say more? The only thing you could do (maybe- talk to your parents) would be to go on birth control pills- they'll make your periods shorter and lighter.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hello , I am a girl who lives near the sea and love to swim. I have started to get my periods (not heavy ones )and I don't want to use tampons, they are just not an option . When I have my period I don't want to skip swimming because it will look very weird of me and everyone would suspect, which would make me feel very embarrassed. Any options of what can I use? Please help.

-- Contributed by: elisa

Hi Anaid, Sounds like no matter what anyone says, you have decided that you are ugly, and that's that. I hope you aren't the type of person that says things like this just so people will tell you that you really are pretty. I'm guessing though that you may just have a little low self-esteem. Everyone feels like an ugly duckling when they are a young teenager. It is hard to think far enough ahead that we'll ever change. The fact is, we do change, and many so-called ugly ducklings really do turn into swans. Whether you are overweight, have acne, braces or even a scar or two doesn't mean you won't change quite a bit over the next few years. I'm sure your parents think you're great, and it sounds like your friends do too.

Please check out our article, Ways to Build Self Esteem. The tips in this article may help you get over this "ugly" hurdle you're struggling with.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

My problem is that I don't feel as if I fit into my family. Everyone in my family is so pretty and I'm so ugly. My friends say that I'm not ugly, but I am so they just say that. I believe what I want to believe (since everyone has called me ugly since 4th grade and now I'm going to turn 14). I just think everything is just going to get worse with high school. No matter what I do I still think I'm ugly, really ugly.

-- Contributed by: anaid

Hi The Girl With No Face, I'm sorry you're having such a rough time and no one to talk to. I don't know what happened to you, but it sounds pretty bad judging by your outlook on life. You say you have a good family and a nice home, but that someone outside of your family has hurt you. Did a guy abuse you? And now you're hurting yourself because of the pain? It is really a good idea to seek some help on this issue- your parents are going to find out about it eventually either by accident, or on purpose. Talk to a counselor at school or some trusted adult, please! They'll help you deal with this very serious problem. No one wants you to die; you're just so far down in the dumps that you can't see a way out right now. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and you don't have to die to get there.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Rosalba, Turning 13 makes you a teenager, not a full-fledged adult, unless you live in a culture where you are expected to get married and have children at age 13 or 14. That being said, it is best to follow the wishes of your mom for a while. You're not the only one who has to adjust to you growing up. It is hard for parents to see their babies turn into young ladies. Why don't you talk to your mom about the makeup issue- ask her if it is okay to wear a little blush and lipgloss first, then work your way up to adding the other stuff. Your mom just wants to protect you; she doesn't want you to look older than you are and attract unwanted attention from guys.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Me, Your note starts off sounding like, "this is what I know I look like," then shifts to "this is what people say I look like." Let's break this down; first, anyone who is a size 3 isn't fat! Second, all teenagers have acne, even the teens you think of as perfect (and if they don't have it now, they'll probably get it when they're adults in their 30's which is far worse). Finally, you wear too much eyeliner? Is that what YOU think, or what some nasty person has said to you? If you think you wear too much, do something about it and tone it down, otherwise carry on.

If people are constantly making fun of you, it is because you are making it easy for them. Ignore the jerks that are saying things- they will only continue to do it as long as you respond. Ignoring them will drive them nuts, and you'll win. Smile and walk away- it is the best defense!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 16 years old, I weigh 130, I am 5'6. I don't have acne and I'm not ugly. I have a good family and a nice home, but I'm very depressed somtimes. I hurt myself because I can't handle the pain in my heart and in my mind. What's the use of living if you have no one to live for. You girls should be happy with your lives; it could be worse. And trust me, you don't want to start your period. Even though you may think it will make you older, it won't. It just sucks really really bad. I have contacts too and I love them.. I just got mixed up with the wrong guys and I ended up getting hurt. You may think, "oh I can't wait to grow up," but it really isn't that great. Be happy with where you are because one day everything is gonna be ok. One day my friends, life will be over. Be thankful that God choose you to live today. Think about all the people who cut themselves and entertain thoughts of suicide. It's all fun and games until someone dies and one day, just maybe, that girl will be me.

-- Contributed by: The Girl With No Face

My name is Rosalba and I'm 13 years old. I weigh 95 pounds and my mom doesn't let me use eyeliner. I have my period and I think I'm already grown up, but she doesn't think so.

-- Contributed by: Rosalba

I am 5'3, weigh 129 and I wear a 36B. I wear size 3 pants, medium shirts, and I have pretty oily skin, and some acne. I wear too much eyeliner, and I look like a fox; my nose is like a pigs, my lips are too tiny, I'm fat and ugly and constantly made fun of.

-- Contributed by: ....me

THIS IS FOR 'uhh' you are so lucky. im 5'1 i weigh 92 lbs and am size 34A. i've got acne, braces and contacts. i dont have my period and even better-supposed to get it when im 15. RAWR!

-- Contributed by: desperate for luck

I'm 5'8 and I just turned 13 and I'm 160 pounds and I wear a 38B.

-- Contributed by: uhh

Hi Redina, How tall you'll grow is largely determined by genetics. However, I need to tell you about recessive genes. If there is someone in your family, either side, one or several generations ago that was short, there is a probability that you won't grow to be as tall as your parents. Personally, I know about recessive genes. I'm 5'3 and my parents were 5'10 and 6'4- both considered to be very tall. It just goes to show that we have so little control over how tall we will become! As to your question if you will grow more, no one will be able to tell you exactly how much you'll grow. I can tell you that I grew 2 inches my senior year after not growing much at all in my junior year.

As for how to deal with your changing body, specifically your breasts, try not to focus in on that aspect. I'm sure there are other parts of your body that you like, especially since you acknowledge that you have a beautiful body to begin with. Since you are still growing, your breast shape and size will probably change too, though not drastically. A B or C cup size isn't so bad and it is the most common cup size....be thankful you don't have to deal with a DD or HH cup size. If your chest has just recently developed, try and relax. Eventually all of your peers will develop too, maybe even surpassing your chest growth, and it won't seem like such a big deal. Hang in there!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I have some time that I am really worried about my height and development . To tell the truth , I am very normal (everyone says so )but I am 13.5 and only 157 cm ( 5ft 2 inch , is it right ? )I weigh 114 pounds and have a beautiful body. I just wish to be taller and my breasts smaller , they are not more than 34B , but they sure look like c . My parents are tall each more than 5ft 7inch (converting cm to inches has been a torture , where have you Americans found this ? ) Will I grow more? I have had my period since last year . What should I do to feel better anyway ? I haven't grown too much last year .

-- Contributed by: redina

Hi Eskimo Kissez2012, If you are only 13, your body is still going through a lot of changes and you should continue to grow for the next several years. I can't answer your question about your breast development- everyone is different, and it depends on heredity (your mom). If you are concerned about your weight, height or development, please speak with your doctor. They can answer all of your questions based on your medical history and give you suggestions on how to maintain your weight.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Delzi, If you have concerns about your height and weight, it is always best to discuss this with your doctor. They can best tell by your medical history and your family background if you are out of the norm for your age. Since you are still growing and only 12, your body will be going through a lot of changes in the near future. Hang in there and don't worry too much about your height and weight.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Lydia, Only your doctor should tell you whether you are overweight or underweight. If you are in either condition, he or she can give you pointers on how to best deal with your situation while maintaining proper health guidelines.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 13 years old and I'm about 5'2. I weigh about 150 but just this summer I was 140. How can I manage my weight and keep it steady??..I feel like I'm a little slow on breast development. How do I know if my boobs are going to grow any bigger??

-- Contributed by: eskimo_kissez2012

I am 12 years old and weigh 50kg. I am 165cm tall, so am I overweight? Am I too tall for my age? What can I do about both situations?

-- Contributed by: Delzi

I am 15, and I weigh 40kg, am I underweight? I was wondering because I know how much being underweight can affect your body and my friends have been discussing it and I have been told I am underweight but I am really unsure, can you tell me?

-- Contributed by: Lydia

Hi Lena,

The "average" weight for someone that is 14 depends upon their height too. Check the chart to see where you fit in. Remember, the information in these charts are merely averages, not something carved in stone that applies to everyone. Some people will weigh more, others less, depending on their health, genetics and medical history.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

hey im len and i juss have a couple qwusetion first thing i wanna say is im 14 yrs old is 130 lbs overweight for my age

-- Contributed by: lena

Eva,

Menstruation occurs at the same time of puberty, which is a period of development and growth. This period will last years, so don't worry if you don't notice a growth spurt immediately after you begin your first period.

The best person to evaluate your individual growth is your doctor. He/she has charts which monitor average growth. If you look at one, you will notice that the average growth is a steady incline over time.

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

after you begin to menstruate , will you grow more?in average, how much ?

-- Contributed by: eva

in the stage of adolescence it is normal to enjoy our selves,like going out with your friends, having a boyfriend or girlfriend and etc., but we must not forget the limitations.

-- Contributed by: karlyn

Hi Carrie,

Have you talked with your dad about how you feel? Getting good grades and doing everything you are asked seem like good reasons for letting you do some special things. Perhaps he would allow you to hang with your friends if you invited them over to your house instead. Parents are often afraid of what goes on in other people's homes, especially when there aren't any parents there to supervise. Maybe if your dad could see how your friends behave in your home, he would be more likely to let you go to their homes at some point. A parent's main concern is their teens safety, so he is probably hanging on tightly to make sure you are safe- not so he can ruin your social life.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

My father refuses to let me hang out with my friends! I am a 14-year-old freshman in high school and i feel i am missing out on my high school experience because of it. All of my other friends can hangout every weekend without a problem, but it is an issue for me to even ask if i can leave the house. My father wants me to be a doctor, and I get good grades, do all my chores, and everything my parents wish. What can I do?

-- Contributed by: Carrie

Soph, just because your slighly over the AVERAGE weight for a teen your age doesn't make you overweight. According to the Center for Disease Control you would have to be significantly overweight, 70 pounds to be exact, to be considered obese. Please see your family physician if you have any concerns about your height, weight or general health.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I just looked at the average height and weight for teenage girls, i am 14, i am about the average height but i am 5 pounds over the average weight am i overweight?

-- Contributed by: Soph

Rach,

You will enjoy reading our article Average Height and Weight for Teenager. It will hopefully help answer your question!

-- Contributed by: Debbie Vasen

I'm really concious about my weight and I really hate the way I look. I'm 14 about 5foot and I weigh 8 stone 10 pounds. Is this average?

-- Contributed by: Rach
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