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Hi Tene,

Before I give you some websites to visit, please read another article about Homeless Teenagers.

Also, find help at the National Runaway Switchboard.

Here are three websites for shelters:

Be safe and get help!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

hello, i would like to know where i can find runaway shelters in elizabeth, new jersey and newark, new jersey

-- Contributed by: tene

Hi Jonathan,

Take a look at the Catholic Community Services website. They have a list of shelters in your area. Also, if you are in trouble, please find a trusted adult you can confide in about your troubles. It can be dangerous on the streets and sometimes it's better to find other ways to solve your issues at home. Good luck to you.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

where can i find a runaway shelter in tacoma, washington

-- Contributed by: jonathan

Thank you for your comment Haley!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

teenage runnaways are 100 percent preventable. all people need to do is take action. show these kids that people care and that they can help.

-- Contributed by: Haley sage

Hi Ran Away, I would suggest at this point to seek other types of help, other than the police. Talk with the guidance counselor at her school- they usually have an idea of what is going on with other teens, and may have heard something that would help. Additionally, this is a very stressful situation for you - talk with your doctor or a therapist for assistance in helping you get through this. The only other thing I can think of is to talk with her friends, or as a last resort, hire a private investigator to find her. Hang in there! Most teens will say their parents don't care - obviously you do care.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

My daughter this morning refused to get up for school. She is 14, will be 15 in a month. I told her for no unforeseen reason that she needs to stay home. She needs to wake up and get up and dressed. Well, she didn't, she stated if I grabbed or tried to smack her behind, (I'm talking a little smack in a kidding way) she would punch me in my face. I said fine when you get suspended from school you best have a good excuse for all this. She left the house after I left for work. My oldest daughter called to say she left the house and was going to take a bus to go live with her father in NJ. I have called the police. They have not located her. I am at my wits end. This isn't the first time she acted out. I had to admit her to a detention center in the summer for behavior problems. I can't do that again. It was the worst thing in the world. I mean it helped her a lot. It's just awful to know she is somewhere, and you have no idea where she is. I feel helpless. please email any response to r m c 8 19 68 @ ya hoo.com.

-- Contributed by: ran away

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope other parents and their teens read this and learn from it.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I have a daughter that just ran away a couple of months ago. I knew where my daughter was staying. She was staying at her best friends house a couple of miles away from home. So one week later I went to her house and I asked for my daughter. They told me that she wasnt there. So I asked the where se went they had told me that she had never gone there. So I was surprised where else would she go. As I was driving home I saw blood on the side of the road this worried me very much. So I pulled over and checked it out. There was nothing so I went back to my car. As I was leaving I saw that there was a tunnel. I got back out and went inside the tunnel. I walked for about 5 minutes into the tunnel, and right there I felt something that I had never felt before. It was my daughter.... dead. This made me feel like if I wanted to stay there and kill myself too. Later on the police told me that she had not ran away. They had kidnapped her that day from the house. When I called her mother she had passed out and went to the hospital. Right there I felt like I had lost everything that I had in life. So what my point is keep your kids safe and close to you. Be sure you know what they are doing and where they are. Also if they are missing dont just think that they ran away also think about that they could have been kidnapped.

-- Contributed by: el aceleraDo siempre aL 100 Los pesaDos

To Rachel and any other teen who doesn't like the rules their parents place on you and think we do not remember being a teen. I can surely remember being a teen and that I thought my parents rules were unfair also-thats life, you will understand when you are grown that no one likes rules, but we have to have them. Parents don't get a manual when children are born and only want whats best for their kids because they love them. If your parents rules are extreme- why don't you try and act like an adult and ask them to sit down and explain why the rules are what they are and if you can meet half way with some compromises. My son is 18 and complained of my rules being too strict too, maybe because I was always a single mother, I was more strict because I could'nt bare to lose him. But open communications between us was always encouraged- if he yelled or fought my rules- I just fought back, he got farther with talking calmly than by fighting. Try it.

-- Contributed by: kelly

Hey Ashley, no one s trying to pretend that they get you. You have got to understand that most of us have been down the same road and just want to help.

-- Contributed by: Sami

Like Racheal said they don't understand. I ran away not too long ago and its been super tough around the house. My parents don't let me do anything, especially now that it's summer. I most definitely want out when I turn 18. To all those other runaways, just be safe and when you get back home your parents won't really know what to say to you. Just give them time. I can't say how much because mine haven't even talked to me, so just know there are people that love you and someday you're going to look back at the moment you ran and really just wonder what the hell was I thinking. You'll realize it wasn't that big of a deal like everyone made it be. Just be you and when they do come and try to talk to you don't scream. Be calm and take it in and just make them understand what's wrong.

-- Contributed by: Sami

I was a teen runaway.... parents don't understand why we runaway. You think that we can prevent it and what not. Well some things aren't that simple really. I ran away because me and my mom were always fighting and i didn't like the rules I had. Well I'm about to be 18 and as soon as I turn 18 I am leaving- moving out of my parent's house because they don't let me do anything. Seriously, parents think about when you were a teen. Didn't you want to run away sometimes? Stop blaming us for everything.

-- Contributed by: rachel

I was just wondering wether Ashley ever returned home? Hi, I am a wanna be Novelist and I am taking a writing course and for my homework we were asked to writing something about revisiting, returning to somewhere or something. Well, I wondered what it would be like to return home afer being away for a while. If any one could help me, Ashley or anyone it would be realy cool to know what it is like first hand. And if once I've writen the piece they wanted to read it I would be happy to post it.

-- Contributed by: Emma

Wow, ok I'm a teen runaway and people don't get why teens runaway unless like Charlotte said you walk in their shoes! So don't sit there and pretend you know what people like me are going through. Don't try and say parents care because most don't; they could care less if there kids ran away. So STOP trying to act like you get people like me.

-- Contributed by: ashley

If you feel that you need to get away from a problem that you had faced for so many years then do it. Try to follow your dreams and don't let no one stop you from following your dreams.

-- Contributed by: Cherrelle Dandridge

Hi Inna, Sounds like you have some problems that need to be addressed quickly. First, if you are having suicidal thoughts you need to call 1-800-SUICIDE. The people there won't judge you; they'll listen to you and offer assistance. If things are bad enough, they'll often send someone to your home to talk to you in person. That being said, run, don't walk to the phone if you're feeling that depressed!

Now, for the job problem. I'm guessing you've graduated and feel that you don't have any job prospects. So, you have two options: one, start looking for a job, or two, go to college. You'll drive your parents nuts if you don't find something to do. If you are unsure about what you want to do for a living, there are many places you can volunteer. Depending on your interests, you could volunteer at the hospital, library, YMCA/YWCA, retirement homes, after-school programs, or any other local business you can think of that could use a volunteer. Also, please check out our new article, List of Cool Jobs, which features an interview with a teen job expert. Good luck, and hang in there! (And you can ALWAYS drop us a line here!)

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 18 years old. I constantly have SUICIDAL thoughts and I also have thoughts of running away from home. Life is so boring and its just not worth living. I'm feel so anxious most of the time. I never had a job yet and i really want a job. My parents sometimes would even start screaming at me that I NEVER had a job yet. And I also feel so lonely. It seems that there is NO ONE to talk to. And I'm kind of a SHY person when I don't know someone.

-- Contributed by: inna

Hi Dearuntouchable, I don't think you are a drama queen. People runaway for different reasons. You never know what someone is going through unless you walk a mile in their shoes. It sounds like you are trying to get help though if you're seeing a therapist. Hopefully you and your parents will gain some insight into how the other person is feeling so the fences of your relationship can get mended- if not today, then maybe someday in the future. Hang in there- the teen years will be over before you know it!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Don't think that being a runaway means you're a "drama queen". I've runaway about 4 times in 3 years, and it's always about a fight, which causes more fights. I'm not a drama queen, and I don't want to have fights with my parents, but it's like we speak two different languages. They dont care to remember what it was like to be "my age", they just don't. Don't let things get away from you like I did; my mother watches my every move, she checks my purse, cell phone, computer, textmessages, iPod, even my Rage Journal my therapist gave me. I have no freedom anymore, and that is worse then runningaway and having no place to go.

-- Contributed by: dearuntouchable

Seriously, it's stupid to run away it's just a person that lets everything blow up to more than it needs to be. If you can't handle a situation then go to your friends house or lock yourself in your room. Don't be a drama queen.

-- Contributed by: KHY

Hi anonymous, don't wait to get help. The longer you wait for help the worse your problems may become. Call the number and you may be surprised at how supportive the counselors are!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi i need help 2, please talk with someone who can help you right away. People at your school can help- a trusted teacher, guidance counselor, school psychologist, nurse- any of these people have varying degrees of training in helping students who have problems like yours. You can also call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-784-2433. It is totally confidential and they are available 24/7. Don't wait- get the help you need today!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

i cut myself and tryed to run away i even though of killing myself but was way 2 chiken i really don't know what 2 do. i need help

-- Contributed by: i need help 2

this has help me alot. its helped me think about what i was going to do. i think i want to call that number.

-- Contributed by: anonymous

this just broke my heart

-- Contributed by: Jenna

Oh my goodness.. this is one of the sadest things I have ever heard. But the sad thing is, is that many teenagers dont realize the dangers of running away from home. There are different answers, you can do many things to help you through everything your going through. Mostly get a friend that you can talk to to help you through eveything.

-- Contributed by: Brooke

talk to someone! anyone!

-- Contributed by: cortney

I have thought alot about running away. And one time i actually did. But my Best Friend Tim saw me and told me i was being stupid like He did when he found out i cut my self. I stopped... I swore I wouldn't do either of those thing ever again... all because of him...

-- Contributed by: Kari

Whether you have a plan, or not, running away is never a great solution to solve your problems. There are plenty of places where there are caring adults, (outside of your immediate family if you are having problems there), who can and WANT take care of you. There are SO MANY CREEPS on the streets waiting to take advantage of you, especially if you are underage and have no way of making legit wages.

Talk to a teacher, guidance counselor, club leader, church leader, hotline counselor or any other adult trusted friend for help. There are ALWAYS better solutions to the troubles you are facing than running away.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

You trick is to have a plan.

-- Contributed by: me

omg if you are reading this please dont runaway i know a lot of people who have and most of them died from it so if you are going to runaway be reall careful

-- Contributed by: sammy

omg that is so sad

-- Contributed by: sam
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