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Hi Kelsey,

If you have his phone number or can talk to him online, talk to him whenever the both of you are free. Tell him that you were upset to see that he wasn't at your school. Just because he's at another school doesn't mean you have to stop being friends with him.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

ohkayy well here is my storyy.. theres this dude that i hav liked since thaa 2nd grade. And recently last year on thaa first day of 8th grade, i saw him and felt somthin i never felt b4.. laterr on i realized its was "love". We went through this whole thing like my friend would b tha messenger back and forth and we nvr actually talked to eachother about it which was a big mistake.. and i recently started highskool just last week and found tht he had moved schools!! I criedd and criedd and criedd!! I still really like and miss him.. but i dnt know how or when tha right time is to talk to him!! Any advice!!?

-- Contributed by: Kelsey

Hi Jasmine,

To get over him will take time because you're used to seeing him all the time. Maybe once you don't see him everyday since he will be in high school, you'll start to forget about him. Another way to get over him is get yourself interested in other activities, so you are too busy to think about him. You can do this by joining groups, spending time with friends and doing sports. You can also start to meet some other boys to help you forget!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hello, umm...well I'm "in love" with this guy that I don't really know that well and he's a grade ahead of me. Starting September he will be in High School and I'm still only in 8th grade. It's been about 5 months since I started likeing him and still even after about 2 months of not seeing him he is still all I can think about. How can I get over him faster.

-- Contributed by: Jasmine

Hi Jane,

I know that approaching him seems impossible so maybe you could tag along with your friend more often and just say hello to him when he comes up to your friend (his ex-girlfriend). That way, you can start to get to know him so then it might be easier to say hi when your friend isn't around. Just start out slow.

There is one more thing I would like to caution you about. I wouldn't worry about the hugging because tons of guys do it just to be friendly. However, you do have the issue of you being friends with his ex. He may not want to date someone so close to his ex. Just keep that in mind if he ends up not getting as close to you as you would like. Good luck!!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hi. I have a question. I'm an active 16 year old girl. I play soccer and lax. I've been confused with my so called love life recently. I got with only one guy in the summer of my 8th grade year going into high school. This was the first and last time I've done anything with a guy. I feel pretty lonely now. And wish that I was in a relationship but I am pretty shy. I think I might like this boy. But I don't normally talk to him. He's not in any of my classes and my friend always talks to him because they used to go out. But she is now in a serious relationship with another guy. The guy I like seems intimidating but I know he has a good heart. I feel ackward talking to him because I'm shy. And he's is always hugging his old girlfriend (my friend). I wish we could be together but ok just not as confident as all the pretty girls in my school. Sorry so long. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: Jane

Hi Liz,

The only way to know if he truly likes you is to ask him. If you aren't brave enough to be so bold, you may just want to continue to be friends with him and flirt a little to see his reaction. Check out this article for more tips: How do You Know if a Boy Likes You.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

well hi!you know i want to know if this guy likes me. We berly met but am so shy and i dont tak to much with him.SoME TIMES he looks at me with a weird look i mean a sweet look.how can i know if that guy like me or not.we are in high school and am 17 can that still be considered a puppy love.i dream with him every day ,can't stop thinking of him.every tiny thing that happens b/w me and him makes me so happy but i dont know if he likes me.

-- Contributed by: liz

Cantell,

It seems like he is a bit insecure and doesn't want to trust that you like him. The only thing you can do is be patient and remind him that you do like him. Hope he starts believing you! Good luck.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hey. Im a female 14 year old girl and i was wondering if yuh can help me with this situation im in. I asked this boy out that i like love (i met him in summer school) and he said yes and i was happy, but the problem was we never got to meet each other whenever we planned to go out something always came up for him or for me , we were both sad that all we did was talk on msn we wanted to acaully see each other, One day he didnt come online for 5 days i got worried so i sent him a messege asking why he wasnt online and a day later he answered and said that he was busy.. I dunno after days went by i felt like we were never gonna meet and i love him i didnt want to tell him it wasnt gonna work but i had to tell him how i felt so i did and he said well if thats what yuh feel okaii but i had feeling we would meet and i had that feeling to bu thats how i felt all the time so i just decided that we shouldnt do this anymore so we didnt .. But i like love him so much i have to talk to him so i did.. we kept talking with each other But then he told me that he feels like i dont love him and im cheating on him, i was really shocked when he said that because the only boy i thought about was him and i told him that i wasnt that type that would play any guy aspecially the ones i love but he didnt answer me back .. So now im confused does he really feel like im playing him? I told him i really love him but he doesnt believe me i dont know what i should say or do? can yuh please help me?

-- Contributed by: canttell

Hi Ryan,

The question you need to ask yourself is if you can deal with the ridicule that you possibly may have if you date this girl (since you said this may happen). Is she worth it? If she is, then go for it. However, if the stress of dating her is going to be too much for you then it may be best to let this one go. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Hi, I'm a 15 year old guy and I'm wondering what to do about this girl. I met her at the start of the school year last fall, and ever since then I've thought that she's the most beautiful girl I have ever seen! I love her personallity too! I want to ask her out but I don't really know what to say. But the main problem is the fact that I'm pretty sure that she's had sex before, and in the area of the US that I live in, it is expected that I date girls that are virgins and are morally 'clean'. What should I do because thinking of long term even though chances are that we won't get married, I just want to have good standards. Should I ask her out?

-- Contributed by: Ryan S.

Young love is a most beautiful thing in the world!

-- Contributed by: Zara

Hi NyAsia, You should ask yourself why you're really in love with someone who is much older than you. You didn't say how much though. If you are underage, and they are over 18- stop now before someone ends up in jail. Wait until you are older before you begin a love relationship with that person. You also have to consider whether they want this relationship because they are too immature to date people their own age- and that's a little creepy.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I disagree with the statement on not getting too involved with someone. You can not help it if there is a connection and you fall in love, especially when the person is some years older. I am 16 and am in love. I cannot help it and he is way older. What do I do?

-- Contributed by: Ny'Asia

There's really no way to define teen love because love isn't just a word- it's the passion and feelings you have for someone else. Love has it's own way helping you feel that connection between someone that you like. Love can take over what you know and how you act...because your too busy thinking about the person you love or just spending every moment with the one you love. Some people tell teens that we don't know what love is...but NO ONE really knows what love is... it's just a strong feeling or attraction to someone you have strong feelings for...love is what most teens are afraid of because the pain it can bring...but love is also an inventor that will make your life a whole lot better and exciting. Love is what keeps most of us going...because it is what we know and want.

-- Contributed by: unknown

To mary: My mom finally trusted me to love a guy.. and i got heart broken. I thought he was the one.. Being young and in a relationship is hard because you don't know how to handle a heartbreak as much as an adult would. Its best if you wait.

-- Contributed by: Hannah

I think young love is nothing to play with. I think if you say you love someone you suppose to mean it. Instead of playing with somebody's heart because it cant get broken quick.

-- Contributed by: Takeyah Greene

Love is so hard sometimes, especially when you think you love someone and you meet someone better while you are with someone!

-- Contributed by: brittany

It's so hard to love with my situation because my mom doesn't want me to. It's so hard to get a boyfriend because my mom says I'm too young.

-- Contributed by: mary

It's amazing. I'm in love with a wonderful girl; she brightens my day with every smile!!!

-- Contributed by: meggan

I'm a teen and it gets hard sometimes.

-- Contributed by: jordan

I'm Romio from USA and I'm 17. I would love to have a good friend or girl who is very loving and caring.

-- Contributed by: Romio Vahid

Lauren, You can't fix someone who is suicidal. They need professional help. I don't know whether you were with him or not when he pulled the attempt at suicide. When he joins the military, if he continues this behavior, they will get him the help he needs. Many soldiers view going to Iraq as a suicide mission, so perhaps this is how he views it as well. (Why did he enlist?). As for what you can do while he is off in Iraq, you'll need to get some friends and some new hobbies. You can't quit living just because he isn't by your side, and he should understand this as well. He'll be on leave from time to time, and this is when the two of you can see each other. Until he leaves in September, try and be supportive. He may not want to see a counselor before he leaves because it may interfere with his deployment.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hey my names Lauren. I'm 16 and I'm dating an 18 year old. I've known him for about 2 years and we've dated off and on for both years, but this time we've been together for almost 3 months straight and I'm madly in love with him. The thing is, in September he's going to Iraq to serve in the war for 4-6 years. I don't know what to do without him for that long of time. I need my baby! He's gotten really depressed lately for some reason, he won't tell me. He bought $900 worth of beer and cigars with his friends and a couple days later he almost committed suicide. He put a gun in his mouth and pulled the trigger, but it didn't work. Now he's getting better because he's staying with me now so I can at least watch what he's doing. What should I do while he's in the war? What can I do about the suicide thing?

-- Contributed by: Lauren Michelle

Hey whats up everyone well let me tell you my story about me and this boy named Cody. I had never found a guy like this. Cody was 19 and I am 16, we had be just friends for about 2 years and then we started liking each other and so we talked and then we dated for about 6 months. We chose not to let anyone know this so we kept it a secret until the last 2 months when he graduated. So everyone or at least like the whole school knew that we were together and I was at trade school (a school where they teach you a trade)and we had field day there. One of my ex's and my so-called friend told Cody I was all over some guy and I really wasn't, so then Cody and I broke up the next day. I'm still in school, but he graduated last week. They thought that I was going crazy so they put me in a crazy hospital. Cody and I are still friends I guess.

-- Contributed by: Crimson

Hi, This is binky and I was so deeply in love with this boy and he played me like a joke. I thought this was going to work out, but you know life moves on.

-- Contributed by: binky

Hi Mixed Signals, A sure fire way to find out whether he wants to go out with you or not is to ask him yourself. Having someone do it for you rarely works out, especially if they aren't your absolute best friend that wants only the best for you. If you already have a relationship and talk frequently, why not just ask him if he is going to the semi or not? If he says "yes," why not just dive in and say something like, "would you like to go together?" If he says that he isn't going, you could ask him "why not." Maybe there is a good reason why he can't go, and it has nothing to do with you.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, Well I am a girl and in 8th grade. There is this one guy in my grade that I have liked for a long time. We have this big dance coming up and I really wanted to go with him so I told one of my not-so-best-friends this and that was a big mistake. She went ahead and asked him if he liked me and if he would go to semi with me. I was very ...off, but of course I wanted to know what he said. So I asked her and she said that he wasn't going to go. Then when brought it up again she told a completely different story about how he said just a plain "no." When I called her out on it she said that in the beginning she didn't want to hurt my feelings, but I think that she is lying because she is known to lie. I don't know what to believe because that boy always talks to me and argues playfully with me and then we laugh. So I'm not sure what to think. I really want this boy to like me! I like him so much. But I chicken out when I'm about to talk to him and ask him if he is going to the dance. Please help, I really need it! ~MixedSignals~

-- Contributed by: ~MixedSignals~

Hi Lizzete, You didn't say how old you are, but this is the advice I would give someone old enough to be having responsible sex. First, I hope that you are having protected sex. Never assume a person doesn't have a sexual history- remember, you're sleeping with every person that individual has slept with! Second, you should give this person credit for telling you the truth (albeit late, but he did fess up). It must have been hard for him- he knew he was risking losing you by telling you the truth. So, you have two choices now- forgive him and be thankful the guy is honest. You could then talk about how the two of you will continue- with no more lies. Or, you could simply end the relationship- but you at least owe him a discussion explaining why you are breaking up. It is wrong to just ignore someone that you have been dating seriously for 10 months, even if they have made a big mistake. Air things out and let the chips fall where they may.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I have been going out with my boyfriend for 10 months now and just a few days ago he told me that he wasn't a virgin. That just last year he had sex with one of his ex girlfriends. I was very upset by this. He claims that he has never loved another girl before me and that he didn't do it out of love. That she was just easy. He told me that if he could, that would be one of the things he would want to take back. While others are telling me to break up with him, I'm not sure what to do. I really care about him and right now I'm just confused if he is the same guy that I thought he was. I'm just not sure what to say to him or what to do right now. I haven't been talking to him much lately although we have talked about the situtation. I've been avoiding him and just trying to think things through.

-- Contributed by: lizzete

Hey Shortie, well I think that maybe you should just try to stick around him for a while and try to help him get out of that. I mean I can't say I know what you are going through because I don't but I know what it feels like to love someone so much and then they do something so bad and mean that it hurt you so much. I think that you should just stick around and try to help him get out of doing drugs... hope it helps..

-- Contributed by: BuTtErCuP

Hi Jessica, I'm not sure I understand your question; did your boyfriend break up with you? If you want to know why or what signs are there when someone is breaking up with you, they are usually pretty clear. Though he should have told you point blank that he wanted to see other people instead of playing immature games. The not taking your calls is always a sign that someone is avoiding you. Find someone else that is kinder and cares more about your feelings. It will hurt a while after you break up, but you deserve better that this.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Well I was in a relationship with a guy for a year and nine months and out of nowhere he said to me that he was not feeling right with me. What action does a guy have when his feelings are changing because he was acting weird; he wouldn't talk to me in school like before and he wouldn't answer my calls. Help please.

-- Contributed by: jessica acevedo

Hi Chicmein, Love is when you know someone very well and care about them deeply; you want only the best things for them. Infatuation is usually when someone has a crush on someone they don't know very well; they imagine how things would be if they were together. People sometimes refer to infatuation as a fantasy relationship. Infatuation can be a bad thing if you start stalking a person.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi there!! I'm Chicmein from the Philippines. I just want you to ask what is the difference between love and infatuation when it comes to feelings?

-- Contributed by: chicmein

Shortie,, Ive just been through almost the same; I was engaged to an amazing guy & we got in to a few arguments. Then he left me a voice message saying it was over. It's so hard for me to move on; I love him and I can't even speak to him or see him. It hurts, but I know I'll be the one better off in the end, because that's what he's like. In answer to you don't know how to handle it, have fun and keep your mind off him. Go out with friends, talk to people but don't let him have an effect on you. Show him your not bothered.

-- Contributed by: Steph

Hi Shortie, find the answer to your question on the Ask the Teen Team page!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

i was engaged to this guy and he ended it after he went back to drugs it hurts because i love him but i dont know how to handel it because its hard.

-- Contributed by: shortie

i realy think this is good advice im 17 and jush broke up from a 2 year and 4 month relationship we broke up cos its just 2 much and we want 2 be friend to take thinsg slower...

-- Contributed by: jay

i too thought that the advice was very helpful i am also 17 and in a 2 year relationship that just ended because we both agreed were in to deep for such a young age. We agreed to seperate before we fell "out of young love" and had heartbreak and are hopefully looking foward to a future where were mature and ready for the heavy commitment it takes. Yes, the long term seperation is hurtfull but it'll be helpful if our fire and sparks are still burning in the years to come.

-- Contributed by: Rachael

i really like the advice given and its very helpful to me because im 17 in a real deep realationdhip that i want 2 work and last forever as most couples we are high school sweet hearts.

-- Contributed by: yoyo
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