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Hi Anonymous, Why kiss someone you're not even remotely interested in, just because your friends have? Take things at your own pace and find someone you care about before you take the plunge. Otherwise, you risk hurting someone's feelings.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

ok, so I'm a guy turning 16 in 3 weeks, and i've never kissed a girl. The problem is, I haven't liked anyone in 9 months and it gets really boring to not have feelings for anyone. All my friends tell me i have to kiss a girl already, but I go to a really small school, and there's nobody that I like. And even if i did, i'd be too scared to ask her out or anything like that. I would have no idea what to do.

-- Contributed by: anonymous

Hi Maddie,

Don't rush it. Just because all your friends have kissed someone doesn't mean you have to. Kissing someone for the first time is special and it's best to wait to do it with someone you trust. As far as this guy, just see how things go with him. Just have fun with him and if the opportunity comes up that a kiss results, great...if not, just hang tight and soon you will find someone you will want to kiss you and you him.

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Ive never been kissed. And all my friends have. Im 14 years old and this one guy and I are pretty good friends. We both like each other but im not sure he wants to actually kiss. What do I do now?

-- Contributed by: Maddie

Okay. I know how just about everybody say that the first kiss is really awkward. Well, mine wasn't. It was great really. I was like 12. It wasn't only my first kiss but my first french and first makeout. I am 14 now. I just thought I'd share that not every first kiss is weird.

-- Contributed by: Kellie

Hi NeedHelpASAP,

I believe the only way you were to break the 'bro code' is if you knew a friend of yours likes her. If you don't know the other boy, you are safe on that. You might want to think about getting emotionally involved with her though because if she does like someone else, she might break your heart when you ask her out by saying no. She may want you to kiss her so that she can get that first kiss out of the way and possibly practice kissing with you. I would say to talk to her and see where she is concerning who she likes. If she doesn't seem interested in someone else, GO FOR IT!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

im super scared.. ok theres this girl whose family and our family goes camping with alot and have family partys alot. she goes to a private school and i dont so we dont see eachother alot. we DO text eachother alot, though. we are having this family party this weekend (4 days away) and she says she likes this other guy but she asked me to kiss her this weekend. i think i like her but i think i like other girls at school too. my parents are a pain about dating(which is why even my 17 year old sis hasnt even dated) i havent even talked about dating to them. im 13...just about 14. she is younger... im confused because she said she likes another guy and yet she asked me to kiss her... should i maybe ask her out? but that would be going against the 'bro code' takeing her from the other guy. please help me asap!!!!

-- Contributed by: NEEDHELPASAP

Hi Sam,

What a difficult and frightening situation. I understand that you don't want to lose this person you like so much just because others don't approve. Just have faith that the relationship will work if he feels as strongly about you as you do about him. If he doesn't, you will be better off with someone who doesn't care what others think. Remember, you can't MAKE anyone love you - he should like you for who you are and nothing else. As far as the kissing, don't worry, it will happen at the right time and if you remain calm it will be special. In the meantime, to make yourself feel more confident, read these articles: How to Kiss First Kissing Tips First Kisses

Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Marcelina Hardy

Im scared i just got a bf (boyfriend) and im not as popular as him he likes me a lot and i like him a lot but if people make fun of him i dont want it to us plus i want to have my first kiss but like i said if people make fun of us we wont go anywhere with this please please help me on what to do!!!!!!!!

-- Contributed by: Sam

Hi Jordan, Sounds like you need to ask her out without her friends around. How about after school, on the phone, cell phone, email? Somewhere where she'll have to talk with you without her friends interference. Get the date first- then worry about kissing her. When the time is right for kissing, it will work out fine by itself.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I am a 12 year old boy. I really like this girl. She is gorgeous. We talk and I make her laugh and when I look in her eyes she smiles. Her friends are so annoying. There are 2 things I'm afraid of: 1) asking her out because she never leaves her friends side and 2)kissing help.

-- Contributed by: jordan

Hi Crushin in Algebra, I'm no more of a mind reader than you are. Apparently, only he knows what he is thinking. If you can't talk to him, I guess you'll have to suffer in silence. Maybe one of your friends can help you find out if he is into you or not.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

No matter how many times I tried to talk to him, I chicken out. Now I have to sit in front and next to him. I can hardly breathe and when I wait outside after class for my friend to come out (we all have the same class), I've noticed that when he walks out and stops to wait for his friend, he always looks at me... and sometimes during class I see him look at me too and I have no idea if it is a good thing or not. What does it mean?

-- Contributed by: Crushin in Algebra

Hi Marwa, If you're interested in any of these guys, obviously they want you to let them know that you're interested. This means that you'll have to say "hi" first. Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns and be pro-active if you want results.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi I am 13 and boys always look at me and smile like their interested, but they never come up to me. I thought some of them are shy, but this is not some of the guys its all of them. What shall I do?

-- Contributed by: Marwa

Hi Crushin in Algebra, The only way to find out if he likes you is to actually talk to him. While you're figuring out whether you should make the first move or not, someone else could be planning to make a move on him. No guts, no glory. Make an effort to talk to this guy, even if you just say "hi" to start.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I like a guy in my algebra class and I'm not sure how to talk to him or if he even likes me! When I first saw him, I sat in back and he sat up front. The desks were angled and I could see him. I thought he was just cool but when the seating chart changed, he now sits in of me. He hangs where my friends and I hang out during break and sometimes I'll look and see him looking at me and my friends. Please help me figure out if he likes me!

-- Contributed by: crushin' in algebra

Hi Nora, Seize the day! Say "Hello," it can't hurt and certainly would help. Someone has to make the first move, and it may as well be you. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hey, me again! Well I'm in high school now and it's really great. Today was my 3rd day. My friends and I have been walking around the school during lunch. I saw a guy that sits with his friends on the bench near the front office. Yesterday I saw him and thought he was pretty cute. I looked back while my friends and I were walking away and saw him and his friend looking at me and my friends. Should I say "Hi" to him? I really want to know him!

-- Contributed by: Nora

Hi Janna, If this person you're planning on kissing is your best friend, why would they say such negative things about you? You might want to re-think the idea of kissing someone who potentially would be mean to you in the future. As for kissing for the first time - it is a lot of hype. Take a relaxing breath, swallow so you don't slobber on the guy, and go for it. Kissing comes naturally and it really is a no-brainer. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm worried about my first kiss because all these people are already experienced and when I go in for the kiss with my boyfriend it will sloppy. I'm also worried that when the time is right my best friend will break up with me for being so unexperienced and tell the whole school I'm a "bad kisser." I don't know what to do to prevent a bad kiss from happening. Help please.

-- Contributed by: Janna

Hi Mikaela, That isn't much information to go on, but if he is talking to you he doesn't hate you. I would just treat this relationship as a friendship until something more develops. Who knows? Maybe things will be different in the fall.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Well I really, really, really, really like this one guy and I don't know why I can't get him out of my mind. During school I had a class with him and he sat in front of me. I was kind of mad at him and didn't want to talk. He turned around and I noticed he just kept looking at me. My face started getting really hot and I kept working, but he kept looking at me. When I finally looked up at him and asked,"what?" he asked if I was mad or something. I asked him "Why?" and he said that I looked like it. A couple of months earlier we had a school break and I was gone the week after because I went to Mexico and when he was with his friends, he saw me walking to 2nd period with my friends and said(and kinda shouted)"hey you're back!" He was smiling too, and I said "Yeah." I don't know if he likes me or not and I'm really confused about it. I want to figure out if he just thinks of me as a real good friend or likes me too. Help!

-- Contributed by: Mikaela

Hi Deanna, Since you're only 13, there is plenty of time to find someone else to crush on or love. Was this guy your first crush? Most teenage romances come and go rather frequently. It is a learning process- you date different people to find out what you are "looking for." Obviously if you've told this guy how you feel, and he hasn't reciprocated, he doesn't want a serious relationship. Chasing after someone who isn't interested in you could get you labeled as a fanatic or a stalker. Take a look around- there must be other guys available. If not, get your girlfriends together and think up a group date idea. It may be just the thing you need to get your mind on other things, and other guys.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 13 and I had a boyfriend a few months ago. It didn't last very long because we knew that after that week we weren't going to see each other again. I still like him and I miss him terribly and I have told him, but I don't know if he still feels the same. I know I should let go, but I just can't. I don't know why, but I just can't. I don't know what to do, please help.

-- Contributed by: Deanna

Hi Nora, So you were crushing on some guy for 3 years, you finally told him how you felt, but you never actually went out on a date. Then there is this other guy that likes you and actually asked you out, and you really like him back. If this is right, why are you even worrying about the crush? It isn't like you had a real relationship with him (yet). Quit apologizing over something that never was. Live in the moment and enjoy the guy who is interested in you and taking you out. If things don't work out with the "nice" guy, then you can go back to worrying about your old crush.

P.S. - There are no do-overs in life.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Booby McGray, How far away is he now? Are we talking the next town, or 5 states away? If he is really far away and he won't be visiting your area any time soon, I'd say move on. There is nothing stopping you two from being friends though- use the Internet and your cell phone to keep in touch. When you're a teen you should be dating a bunch of different people so you can find out what you like, and don't like about guys. If you are in a long-distance relationship, you'll miss out on a lot of potential relationships that could be good too.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

There's this guy that just left three days ago and as a joke we started going out a day before he moved. I miss him so much and cannot stop thinking about him. I really wish I had gotten to know him better. People told me that he liked me and we would've made a great couple. I don't know what to do because I still really like him, but he's not here anymore. We've already kissed and hugged and when he was leaving I really wanted to kiss him again, but because his parents were there and my friend that also liked him was there,I couldn't kiss him. Should I give up on him or should I try a long distance relationship?

-- Contributed by: booby mcgray

Hi, my name's Nora and I have a little problem. I've liked a guy for 3 whole years and finally told him a week before school let out and the day of the 8th grade dance. I wrote it in his yearbook, but don't know how he reacted because I left with my friend after. At the dance I got embarrassed, but stayed with my friends the whole time. At the dance I saw the guy that promised he would let me hear him sing. He did and I danced with my friends and him even though the other guy i liked was nearby. My friend told me later that she noticed the other guy was getting a little upset when he saw. the next week the guy i danced with asked me out and i said yes because I liked him too, but I felt different and was sad for some reason. I also felt like I was emotionally cheating on him because I still liked the other guy a lot more. 4 days later, after graduation, I sent him a message explaining everything because he thought I was upset with him. I also told him we were better off as friends. He said he understood and I haven't talked to him since, but I'm trying to figure out if I'm wasting my time on the guy I really like and if I was really stupid for a going out with guy I liked and cared about but not in that way he did. I want to redo the whole thing over again and see what would happen, but I want to figure out if I should jut get over my 3 year crush.

-- Contributed by: nora

Hi Roxi, There is nothing you can or should do. Unless this guy is stalking you, he is free to look wherever he likes. He did dump you, so I think you should stop reading more into this than there is. Sounds like your friends are perpetuating this problem, so perhaps you should tell them to knock it off because it is bothering you. Unless this guy turns around and actually says, "I'm still into you," I would ignore what other people say. Stick with the guy you are in love with and forget this old romance.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

At the beginning of the school year I changed schools. I met these two guys that I liked and only one of them started to flirt with me. He would tell me I was beautiful and all. Well anyway he asked me if we would be pashing soon and when I said yes he avoided me for a week then dumped me. I am now going out with the other guy and I'm so in love with him, but everyone says that the first guy still likes me, even though my best friend and he are good friends. I always catch him starring at me in class and he avoids me on MSN and at school. It's really annoying because I've moved on, but I don't think he has and he's the one who dumped me! What should I do?

-- Contributed by: Roxi

Marie, The only thing you can do if the two of you are good friends is to be honest with her. Tell her that you love her and that you don't want anything bad to happen to her. You could also remind her that if she did get pregnant with this 19 year old that he could end up in prison for statutory rape- meaning he won't be around to help her raise a baby. If you really care, you can't keep silent.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

OK I don't know what to do. My younger cousin is making out with 19 year olds and making out with kids she only knew for about an hour. The only way I know is because I have caught her laying on top of the 19 year old. At first I wondered what 19 year old would try to have sex with 12 year old. Then she said that she told him she was 16 (and she looks the part). I love my cousin a lot and I don't know what to tell her. I don't want her to think I am criticizing her and I don't want her to just blow me off. I have friends who have been down this road and I am scared that by the time she learns she will be pregnant. Help Me PLEASE.

-- Contributed by: Marie

Hi Amy, It all comes down to what YOU want to do, not your friends, and not even your boyfriend. When it feels right, that is when you should kiss him, not before.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Ginny, Sounds like your mom is upset, possibly over a trust issue or a morals issue (perhaps you have a religious family?). At any rate, if the only issue is you being pregnant, I would think that taking a pregnancy test would solve that problem rather quickly. If you were pregnant, would she really want to throw you out into the cold? If you are still in school, talk with a guidance counselor to see what your options are. In the states we have places for kids to live who are in your situation, but I'm guessing you live somewhere else. It might be best to apologize in order to smooth things over and settle the pregnancy issue now. Maybe things were said in anger, and she doesn't really want you to move out. My advice is to talk this one out.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi people, I have been going out with this boy for 1 month and I think he's getting hassled by his friends because we haven't kissed. I don't mind kissing him, but I get so embarassed so easily! I think he's getting annoyed with me. Any advice?

-- Contributed by: Amy

I brought my boyfriend over my house once (we've been dating for 3 years) and we went to my room to watch a movie and stuff. We kissed which is ok for my mum (since im 17 hes 18), but we got a little carried away and now my mum is kicking me out. How can I convince her that im not pregnant?

-- Contributed by: Ginny

Hi Lauren, At your age (I know you hate to hear that), it is unlikely that either sex is ready for a serious commitment. It is best to date a lot of different people- it helps you figure out who is good for you and who isn't. and it will teach you a lot about human nature. This guy you were seeing, he goes to another school, doesn't keep in touch and quickly found another girlfriend. He doesn't sound like a real steady kind of guy. Try to enjoy it for what it was and move on. He doesn't deserve you!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Elanie, Those guys are total idiots, to put it mildly. They are obviously letting a certain part of their anatomy do their thinking for them. I feel sorry for the other girl though, if that is the only way she can get attention from a guy. Personally, I would steer clear of these guys since they only seem to be interested in one thing. I also want to add though that not all guys are creeps. While I agree it may be good to put serious relationships on hold for a while, I wouldn't do it forever. You would be missing out on some really good relationships, even if the guy-to-be is just a good friend. As for the flirt part, only you know if you are a flirt or not. Your friends don't know what is truly in your heart.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Paulina, As the saying goes, "A kiss is just a kiss." Try not to read too much into it if the boy hasn't said anything else. He obviously likes you, but a kiss doesn't mean that you are now dating exclusively. However, beware of people that go around planting kisses on just about anybody- they aren't sincere and you don't need that kind of attention! You don't have to do anything at this point- he's the one that needs to either explain himself or stop kissing you.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

My name is Lauren. I'm 13 and in 8th grade. I met this guy named Tony. He's in the 7th grade and he was 13 when I met him. I'm almost 14 now. About 2 months after we met, he asked me out. I said "yes of course," because I really love him. We go to different schools so we only saw each other on the weekends. We held hands and hugged and he kissed me on the cheek a few times. I think it was the 3rd time I saw him after we got together, that we kissed. It was amazing and it was our first kiss for both of us. Then a week later things went wrong. Another week passed. We didn't see each other that weekend. On Wednesday, he broke up with me. Thursday, he asked me out again. I said "yes," then I broke up with him another week later. I still really love him, but he got another girlfriend less than a week after. I don't know what to do now. It seems like he still loves me too, but I'm not really sure. Any advice? Thanks and much love.

-- Contributed by: lauren

I am 15 and a sophomore in high school. All my friends have or had boyfriends. I've had 2. They both dumped me after about three weeks and cheated on me with the same girl. (When I say cheated I don't mean just a kiss. They had sex with her and everything.) Anyways, the first boy, I really loved him. We had been friends for a long time so it hurt so bad. The second boy I dated was about 3 months later and I don't think I was over the first. Now though, I'm over both of them, but the thought of having a boyfriend again scares me to death. I don't know what to do because I'm pretty sure lots of guys like me. My friends say I'm just teasing them because I'm such a flirt. I don't know what to do.

-- Contributed by: Elanie

I just got my first kiss last week in the hallway from an boy that I really like. I wanted to know does that mean we go out or what. He hasn't let me know whether the answer is yes or no. What do I do and what does it necessarily mean?

-- Contributed by: PaulinaHamilton

Hi George, I'm not sure I understand what the problem is. You say that you like the guy, but when anyone asks you about it you tell them you don't like him. If he is hearing this he is probably really confused. If you really DO like him, what is the harm in letting your friends or the guy know? Sounds like you know him pretty well since you walk to school together. Why not fess up and end the mystery for everyone?

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 13 and have not had a boyfriend (this is not whats bothering me). The guy I like is 14 and has had quite a few girlfriends, but he knows I haven't had a boyfriend before. In the past he has called me frigid. Most of my friends think I fancy him, but I always deny it. Someone started a rumor around school that I liked him. One of the boys in my form told someone in ******(guy I like)'s year. Then on the way home (he lives up the road, so he and his brother walk to and from school with my sister and I) he asked me if it was true. I denied it again. One of my friends has a brother who is really good friends with the guy I like. She said that ****** likes me. I don't know if she was being serious or not. PLEASE HELP!

-- Contributed by: George

Hi YT, If she has gone out with you before, why wouldn't she do so again if you asked her? You said she is still nice to you, so I think she would give you a favorable response. Choose something to do that you would both like (I'm assuming you already know what she likes since you've dated before), and ask her out! If she says no, at least you'll finally know where you stand with her. We're hoping she says yes though!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi again Kaela, I would put the guy with a girlfriend on the back burner for now. It is never a good idea to break a couple up- it will give you a bad reputation. As for asking the other guy out, I can't tell you to go against your parent's wishes. However, is your sister older than you? If she has gotten around this particular issue, perhaps she can give you some advice. Other than that, I'm thinking a group date would work best. Get some friends together, have them (your friends) ask him along (that way you're not going against your dad's wishes), and then you two would get a chance to know each other better. Otherwise you'll just have to wait until he gets up the courage to ask you out.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I had gone out with this girl that comes to my tae kwon do classes for about 2 years, but she stopped coming for about 6 months and we lost contact. I still love her, but i don't know whether she still loves me. She acts nice to me, but I don't know if she wants me just as a friend or as a boyfriend and I don't have the nerve to ask her because I don't know how she'll react. By the way, I'm 13 and she's a couple of months younger than me.

-- Contributed by: Y.T.

Hi, well,my dad won't let me ask a guy out because he says its not very proper(never said the guys couldn't)and he won't even let me ask for the number!But I really like this guy and I think I might even love him. Like Romeo and Juliet,Sleeping Beauty and the prince, straight up, L-O-V-E. I think I would even die for him if he was ever in trouble! The problem is I like another guy too. I always think about both of them and feel bad after if I think of one, but not the other. The other guy has a girl friend and we flirt text sometimes. We don't do anything else. At school we hardly see each other and if we do, we say hi and then leave. The first guy though(the one I'm in love with) is SUPER sweet and SUPER funny! My sister says I should ask him out because our dad was raised differently than how he and our mom raised us. I want to ask him out soo badly! And want to do it myself, I just don't know how. Please help me again on who I should listen to, my dad or my sister. Thanks~Kaela

-- Contributed by: kaela

Hi Kaela, It would be hard for me to say what is going on in someone else's head. However, it sounds like he is flirting with you a lot too. Perhaps he is waiting for you to initiate a date. Maybe that was what he was hinting out when you were playing the questions game (you could always play it again!). Why not ask him out? Sounds like you've given it some thought. Practice what you are going to say so you don't freeze up at that perfect moment. Good luck!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi. I like this one guy a lot! I sit near him in language arts and I almost asked him out on Thursday. He was kidding around and was saying he knew everything. I told him "yeah right" and he told me to ask him ANYTHING. I asked him a couple of questions and then said "Ok,how many brothers and sisters do you have then?" He looked at me and laughed before telling me. I asked him a couple more and then said "alright how about...what's your girlfriends name?" he smiled and said "Don't have one." I nodded and we smiled at each other waiting a little for the next question. I wanted to ask him "Do you want one?" but I got a little nervous and didn't say anything and he eventually turned around. Today he leaned back onto my desk and smiled before getting up again. I don't know what it means. My friend told me about this site and said I should try it. So I hope you can help figure out what this all means. *kaela*

-- Contributed by: kaela

Hi again Clueless, Well, asking someone out doesn't have to be really hard, it is just a simple question. I'm guessing you don't really know this guy too well because you're worried he'll say no. Make it easy on both of you- don't make it seem like a date. Just ask him if he'd like to get a bite to eat, a latte, or something nearby (if you live in town)after school or on the weekend. Or, you could ask him to meet you somewhere to study, like the public library on the weekend. You could also take the ultimate plunge and come right out and ask him to a movie or a school sporting event. Don't forget about group dates- get a bunch of friends together, invite him along, then there won't be so much pressure on the two of you. Just come right out and say, "Hey, would you like to do something with me...after school....this weekend...with my friends..." Get the idea?

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi, me again. Well I thought about it and decided I do want to ask him out. He is really nice and sweet and funny AND cute, but I don't know how he'll react or how I should ask him out. I'm not sure what to do because we flirt sometimes in the only class we have together, which is English. He sits right in front of me and when he stretches his arms he leans all the way back onto my desk so that I have to stop working to look at him, then he smiles at me and I can't help smiling back. When we talk we end up smiling some more. He makes me laugh and I know a lot about him, but I don't know HOW to ask him. I need some help with this and hope you can tell me. ~clueless

-- Contributed by: clueless(again)

Hi Jacinta, I'm not sure exactly what advice to give you since you go to an all-girls school. The usual experiences and interaction with guys is non-existent. Don't you have any all-boys schools nearby that your school plans events with? Perhaps you know some kids from the town near your school, if it is within walking distance. If all else fails, how about the kids in your hometown? You may have to wait until your breaks and summer vacation, but surely you could find some other kids to hang with there.

My advice would be to cultivate some girlfriends that do things socially- either at your school or are involved in extracurricular activities. Join a few clubs so you can get out more. Having a big circle of friends almost guarantees that you'll get to meet more people- including boys.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Clueless, You really need to go with your heart in this matter. No one else can tell you what to do. I'd be careful with the guy who just broke up with his girlfriend- you don't want to be his rebound girlfriend. The way I see it, you need to ask one of these guys out since they can't seem to get up the courage to do it. I'd ask the guy who didn't just break up with his girlfriend first- sounds like you have been friends for a while.

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

Hi Help 102, If you are looking for your first kiss, you will have to at some point have a girlfriend. This doesn't have to be the person you are going to marry, but most girls are against being kissed randomly by just any guy. Sounds like you have the makings of a nice relationship with your study buddy- why not find out if she likes you in that way? Ask her out to something simple, a movie, bowling, a sports event at your school.

The art of conversation isn't as difficult as you may think. First, find a common area of interest, or find out if she has any special hobbies. Start the conversation by asking a simple question that requires more than a "yes" or "no" answer. Keep the conversation going by asking her more questions and letting her talk about herself (It's not about you!). Hopefully this will lead to you being more confident talking with your crush as well as other people. The better you get to know her through conversation, the easier it will be to ask her out. Hang in there!

-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I'm 16, and I have never gone out with anyone, ever... but I feel like I'm ready to. I go to an all-girls school, and don't have anything to do with boys. Can you suggest anything for me to do? From Jacinta

-- Contributed by: Jacinta

Hi,I'm turning 14 later in March and I'm the 8th grade. I reeeaaalllyyy like these two guys. One is in my grade,M,but the other,J,is in 7th. M doesn't even know that I like him and only a few of my friends know. Everyone else is clueless. I want to tell him, but I've liked him since 6th and he knew. Now he thinks I just like him as a friend and I think that's how he thinks of me too. He's really nice, funny and has friends who are nice too. J knows I like him and that I want to kiss him. He even tried kissing me but I freaked because my friend was by us. He and his recent girl friend just broke up and has been looking at me and smiling whenever I go by. J is nice and funny too, but is a little bit of a flirt. I don't know who I like more and have been really confused about it for the past two months! Please help me, I want to make up my mind but don't know how. Please help me. ~clueless on who to choose

-- Contributed by: clueless

Hi, I am going to turn 14 this March and I haven't had my first kiss yet. I do have a crush on a girl who is in most of my classes, but we don't talk too much other than about studies. We both are straight A students and I am not one of those very open talking to people. Please tell me what to do.

-- Contributed by: Help102

Ok, I just turned 18 in december and I'm a freshman in college. Even though I am 18, I've never had my first kiss and I've never had a real boyfriend. All my other friends have boyfriends and had their first kisses when they were in grade school. I just want to know if there is something wrong with me and is it normal for me not to have had a my first kiss. I just feel so out of place. If you could just give me some advice. Thank you

-- Contributed by: Arielle

Hi, my name is Arisa. I like this guy at school and I'm pretty sure he likes me back, but he just broke up with another girl 2 weeks ago so I'm not sure. Also, I'm American and all my friends are teasing me because he's Korean and I don't know what to do.

-- Contributed by: Arisa

Okay so I have a friend who is ONLY 14 and she has a boyfriend who is ONLY 15. He wants to have sex with her or he will break up with her. I told her that "that’s wrong and he is no good for her," but she says that she loves him and she never wants to lose him that he means so much to her. She never had a boyfriend before; this is her first real boyfriend and she’s very close to him. It’s hard to tell her not to have sex with him. She even told me that she doesn’t think she’s ready, but she doesn’t want to lose him. I need help/advice to make her see that it's wrong. She’s my best friend I really don't want to see her get hurt or end up with a baby. That would be super bad! Please help me. I really don't think she should go through with it. Vikki PS: She won't listen to me when I tell her to go to someone and talk.

-- Contributed by: Vicktoria

There was this boy who liked me for almost a year before I started liking him. We went out for a week and I decided I didn't want to because there was a lot of "talk" going on at our school (we go to a VERY small school and even the teachers knew). After about a month I ended up telling him I liked him again and he still felt the same way. We went out for three months and I just didn't want a boyfriend anymore. I hurt him really bad. Its been almost a year and I really want him back. I have gone out with other guys between and its just not the same. I miss him so much. I still catch him staring at me so I'm almost positive he still likes me. The problem is that no one wants us to go out. My mom and dad said that it's probably best that this happened because he isn't the type of person they could see me with and my friends really dislike him. He is the show-offy type and I am a very good student that is a "mom" to all the guys (meaning I expect good behavior. I can't stand when people are immature and try to get into trouble). His sister hates me and they are really close. Should I just let it go? Or what do I do because I think I love him.

-- Contributed by: Jennie

Hi. I have a boyfriend and I don't like him at all. I dont even know why I said yes when he asked me out, but he gets really angry easily and I guess I didn't want to let him down. I've already kissed him and we've done other things, but I don't know how to tell him I only like him as a friend. Please help.

-- Contributed by: pamela.

Hi. I am Melissa and I am 13. I have a girlfriend-shes the best thing that has ever happend to me, but my mum keeps telling me to get a boyfriend. I really don't know if I should tell her I am bisexual and have a girlfriend or not because she hates gays sooo much. Help me, please.

-- Contributed by: i dunno hows name needs to go here lol

Hey, I'm a 14 year old guy with this really good friend, who happens to be a girl. Anyway, she is really really nice and is absolutely gorgeous. She flirts with me a ton, but told me she didn't like me. Everyone says she likes me, I'm confused! Thanks.

-- Contributed by: Joe

I'm 14 and there's this guy that Ive dated on and off for four years and he asked me out again, what should I do?

-- Contributed by: Brittany

heyy. i dont no wat to say to my x-b/f he was my first kiss and then he broke up wit me 11 days later. i was so hurt. i have never thought a guy would ever hurt me as bad as he did.we got into a big fight and now were friends.should i let it go?

-- Contributed by: hayley

Hi, I'm 11 and I am in my first year of high school. In primary school I went out with most of the boys in my year. But they all seemed to dump me for silly reasons, now they hate me! I hoped in highschool that it would get better, but all those boys I dated just 'warn' all their friends at highschool that I'm unpopular or goofy. Now, I did get one boyf not long ago who's in the year above. I thought he really like me, and ye, we snogged at a disco and went to the cinema together. But he dumped me because I'm 'OTT' as he puts it. It's like any boy that I kiss or hug, dumps me. Sometimes I feel like I carry some contagious disease! Help please. xx

-- Contributed by: Cath

So I have a boyfriend, and we've kissed for like a second, and i really want to do the whole open mouth make out kiss. But I'm extremely confused on what to do. What goes where? And he's had sex already. I dont feel pressured at all, but Im just afraid of making out with him because he knows how to do it and i dont. Any advice?

-- Contributed by: Jaime

hi i am 13 boy and i have a friend called stephanie who is same age as me. and i really want to ask her out but im to embarrassed what shes gonna say.one day she said kiss me so i did and she smiled. i dont know if thats a sign to say she wants to go out with me please help

-- Contributed by: conner

Hiya. I am 13 years old and am going out with this guy who is ten months older than me. But we r in the same grade and everything. We REALLY love each other to bits. He has told me how much he loves me an infinite number of times. I have also told him. We have been going along for about almost three months now. The thing is, i REALLY want to kiss him. I wanna kiss him BAD. I NEED HELP. How do i know if he is up for it? Is he ready? Plus, we have already held hands, cuddled and he has pecked me on the cheek. All i want is a peck on the lips. Will it happen? HELP!!!! Any advice??

-- Contributed by: britney

hii im 15 and my parents dont trust me any more because i started to smoke and i rly like this guy but we have dated in the past but my parents didnt like him so i had to break up with himi kept seeing him all teh time behind my parents back and we'd allways hang out at his friends house...and one day i kissed his friends while he wasnt there. now im wondering if i should talk to him or let him go even tho he was my first accual boyfriend.

-- Contributed by: miranda_xo

Hey, im 15 and my girlfriend is asking me about sex and im not sure i should do "it"

-- Contributed by: Johnny Diaz

hi im 12 yrs old, i like this one girl in my class. She is so beautiful. i already asked her out. but she said that she didnt know. now next nxt

-- Contributed by: Tony

Hi. I am 13. My boyfriend told me he wants to kiss me and I want to kiss him back. BUT the probalem is that I have never kissed a guy before and i don't think he has ever kissed a girl before. I don't know what to do?!?!?!? Also lots of girls have kissed their boyfriends in my grade and there is a lot of pressure to kiss him, but we have been going out lots longer than most of the couples in my grade so it feels that i should have already kissed him. I am ready to kiss him, BUT I don't know if I am a good kisser. Any advice for me????

-- Contributed by: SOPHIE

i met thiz boi at the dance. he's in the 7th grade and i'm in the 8th would it be wrong 2 go out wit him bacuse we are in different grades. also are signs are like really compatible but they say that we ca get a little too sensual around each other. we give each other hugs and hold hands and almost kissed. so mainly would i be wrong 2 go out wit someone in a different grade and we kiss can this lead 2 more than i want?

-- Contributed by: mya

I need help i have a boyfriend but we never talk. He tells my friend he wants to break up with me then he turns around and says he love me. any advice for me??

-- Contributed by: Manda

Hi~i'm 13 year old girl and i still like my ex.but i don know whether he like me a not and i'm going to tell him that i like him but he really likes me and i'm scared that we'll will break up again because he's a playboy.

-- Contributed by: .........

Yea i'm 13 and i've had a boyfriend but i broke up with him and didn't see him for like three monthes then he wanted to go out with me soooooo badly again but i kept saying no and now i kind of like him again. My best friend keeps saying i'm just gonna want to break up with him again and then things will be ocward. that and my dad doesn't understand that i should be able to date and that he can trust me i've been his little girl sence i was 3 and he wont let me date let alone talk to a guy ,he hasn't meet, on the phone i'm sooooo confused help me please......

-- Contributed by: missy

I'm a 16 year old guy whos in love with a girl almost a year older then me. Shes one of an extremely rare breed of people, born with both brains ad looks, not to mention talent, and i really dont wanna let her go.well, I dont think I could, even if i wanted to. im pretty close to all her friends, and they claim she knows about my feelings for her. we've been out a few times, had loads of fun, and all that jazz.However, the problem here is that shes extremely shy, and not at all generous with hints and what not. Sure, when we're alone,we cuddle up on the couch, n talk to each other in that soft woozy voice, but maybe she just takes me to be a close friend? I need help only with confessing my feelings to her. For her, i've fought of two older jealous ex-boyfriends, given up alcohol, given up fighting, and forbade myself from even looking at another girl; and Im really not willing to give her up after all that.

-- Contributed by: anonymous

I'm a eleven year old boy and I have this girl that I like but I can't ask out. I'm shy and I don't have much money for gifts can you help me?

-- Contributed by: John

Dear Melissa, I have a friend who says he likes me but doesn't like me. He has this girlfriend and she keeps on saying they kissed over and over again. I'm starting to get real ...ed off! I feel the same way about him. Once we spent 2 days together and he kept on wanting to kiss me, like, lean towards me and pucker up! I did it back but he missed and kissed my nose. What do I do?!?!?!?!?!

-- Contributed by: Noel

Ma frend is scared to kiss her bf, and I have been out with him b4 and kissed him, I told her she would be fine, but she hardly even speaks to him! Help so I can give her advice!

-- Contributed by: Hmmmm!

HI again.I am clueless with this whole date thing. Ive did the first step and asked her out but...where from there? We know each other alot more. We talk on the phone alot and we walk home together. Where do we go from there. I think about her all the time am attracted to her.Shes kind and sweet and understanding. I would kill myself if i ruined this perfect relationship.

-- Contributed by: james

Im a 14 year old boy and me and this girl are going out. I sence a connection with her passing notes and such...but i dont know if she would like to go on a date or something. Cause parents can be a pain you know.I really like her and she likes me but how do we sort this out. I want to know if she wants to take it to a higher level or not possibly plz help!

-- Contributed by: James

Hi. I am 13 and started my periods like years ago. I am really desperate for a boyfriend and to kiss someone but my friends aren't as mature or ready yet and keep on with the 'girls hate boys' thing and vice versa. I feel like my friends are holding me back. There is this other group of people who I sort of like who have all got boyfriends and I am wondering whether to go with them but I really like my friends and feel awful when I think abut it. There is this guy called Matt who I like and I think likes me but whenever he comes over to talk, my friends just abuse him and if I stick up for him, they wolf-whistle and get so much stick I don't bother. Please help me - if I don't kiss someone, I'm gonna die!

-- Contributed by: eek484

Hi Bre,

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-- Contributed by: Charlotte Gerber

I have this friend, or at least I think. And one of his friends told me he likes me, but I don't want to go out with him. I just dont feel the same way for him as he does for me. So ever since I found out that he liked me, we havent been talking or even looking at eachother anymore. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: Mikayla

I have a friend who's gotten pretty close to me, and already told me he likes me, so its all up to me if we date or not... Unfortunately, I don't want to, and yet I do. The main big reason I don't want to is because I'm petrified of kissing. It just seems so unnatural and gross, and a necessity of a relationship. Is it really something I can deal with, or will it always seem grotesque to me. I'm 19 now, and haven't kissed even my parents since I was 6, nor do I like anyone kissing me (not lips obviously), so I don't know if I can deal... please help...

-- Contributed by: Jaimie

Okay so i have this guy friend i am going to the movies with this weekend--just as friends-- but that was before his best friends told me that he had a crush on me and that the movies in his mind is a date... and by that time i was like flipping out because i kind of like him back. I didnt kno what i was going to do.

Okay that weekend happened last weekend. We ended up going to the movies and as we were watching he took my hand and held it. Knowing me and my luck, i started to get all nervous. When i looked over at him, i noticed he was leaning into me, and i started to lean into him. we had kissed each other. i wasnt nervous anymore, so dont be nervous about your first kiss. it will happen naturally. and things can work out for u and that special someone. me and him are now like the jonas brothers song, more than just friends. <33--Dani

-- Contributed by: Dani

i haven't had my first boyfriend yet, but this guy jon is in most of my classes and really likes me and i like him. he won't go out with me. Is this normal??

-- Contributed by: bre

I was so nervous for my first kiss. but then I kissed her and it was fine.

-- Contributed by: brooke

ok so like I'm dating this girl and today was our first date and she gave me all these signs that she wanted to kiss but like I don't think I'm ready yet but I like her a lot and she's really sweet and like we like each other a lot (jst sumtin cool lol her b-day is the day b4 mine lol) r we compatible and should I kiss her when she gives me signs ?

-- Contributed by: kareem

Well first of all if you havent had your first kiss yet. Its not much of a big deal. There will be a guy that would want to be your boyfriend. And if things come out right then he will be the one who you will have your first kiss with. So dont bug out with the idea. I never freaked out about having my first kiss. Even though I already did have my first kiss but I didn't worry about it or thought about it. So don't worry about. When the time is right you'll get it.

-- Contributed by: Analee

You shouldn't kiss or date someone out of pressure to conform.

I'm not saying you should only kiss the person you're going to marry -or that you should get married, or anything like that; I don't think that- but when you kiss someone it should be after the relationship has been going for a while.

I took it really, really slow. He was in love with me for over a year before I fell in love with him -and I didn't know he felt the same way- and then it took a couple months after that for it to be mutually recognized. The first kiss wasn't for a while after that.

We've been very happy with each other for almost a year now and it's still strong.

I'm convinced that it's because I didn't join the mad rush to be attached to a guy, any guy as long as he's male.

-- Contributed by: Caroline

You know I just kissed a guy for the first time and it was such a rush! Breaking up with him the next day was even more of one! I then started dating one of his best friends, but I don't suggest that. Unless they're really hot. but just do it! You'll be glad you did.

-- Contributed by: Lexie
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